Sometimes what you did today or recently, is not enough.

If you feel like you are not doing enough, it’s okay. Maybe you are really not doing enough. Maybe that’s the most you can do, but it’s not enough to get you to your goals. But the solution to this isn’t getting discouraged. Isn’t feeling bad, or quitting.

It’s being okay with just showing up and doing the least you can do. It’s not because perseverance will get you there eventually, it’s because there’s nothing else you can do.

You can’t blame yourself in this case, you couldn’t have done more than that, even if you wanted to.

You have to understand that sometimes it is really not enough. What you did is not enough. At least not enough to get you to your goals or to make a difference in your life. Even if it feels like it’s more than enough in terms of your energy and capability, because you couldn’t physically get yourself to do more than that today.

But when it comes to actual progress, making a difference, hitting your goals, getting ahead, and moving the needle forward, it’s not enough. It’s still not enough.

Here, the quality matters as much as the quantity. You cannot say I rested long enough, and that should be enough, and now I should get back to work. Are you well-rested? Did you fully recover your energy? The quantity of your rest might be high or long, but is the quality of your rest good enough? Or are you still too tired to do anything that is not insanely easy?

Just because you took a vacation or some time off, doesn’t mean your body has recovered from exhaustion completely.

It is poetic that you, yeah you, of all people, are focusing on quantity instead of quality when it comes to resting your mind and body. You can take as much time as you want off of work, but if the quality of the recovery process sucks, you will end up almost as tired as you were before you attempted to take care of yourself or take that long break.

Remember, in cases of insomnia, they’re still lying in bed, but they never fall asleep.

Sometimes you don’t need to rest longer, but you need to rest harder, or rest better.

The quality of your rest, is everything.

By all means, do not let the abuse be the only thing that has taken place in your head or life for years, by any means necessary. Find something, anything, that has nothing to do with the abuse, and do it as much as you can, for as long as possible, until you save yourself. Until you set yourself free, for good.

A tip that might help lessen the impact of any interaction you might be forced to have with a narcissist or abusive person is to not let your interactions with them be the only thing that happened today.

Don’t let those interactions fall into a clear head, so that they don’t hurt as much. Try to immerse yourself into anything that keeps your mind occupied with stuff all the time, just to make it easier for you to distract yourself from what happens to you.

Don’t succumb into the feeling that you are feeling so bad and thus you’d rather do nothing at all all day long because you’re not in the mood. Don’t let the abuse be the only thing that entered your mind or has taken place today. Distract yourself like crazy, until you make it out of this prison.

You might find yourself always doubting or denying that you’re improving.

You might feel like you’re not getting any better, no matter what you do or how hard you try, despite doing everything right.

You might always minimize what progress you’re making even when you’re doing great.

This might happen because some people in the past told you repeatedly that you will never get any better no matter what you do or how hard you try. It has nothing to do with actual lack of progress.

It doesn’t mean that it is pointless to even try, because improvement, progress, achievement, or fixing things for you is impossible. This is important, because in this case, you keep changing what you do all the time to get better results, but nothing happens.

This is a classical example for when the underlying problem is not with you, or your strategy, or whatever strategy you are following, but with your lack of awareness that most of the beliefs you have about yourself and the world aren’t yours, but are those of your abusers. They belong to those who worked so hard for years to sabotage your life, ruin your future, and destroy your life by any means necessary.

Make sure that you get rid of all those beliefs.

You are improving, if you’re really doing everything right. You just can’t access that improvement yet, because you don’t believe it can exist, because your limiting beliefs that came to you from your abusers tell you that you will never be something, you will never be good enough, you will never succeed, and you will never amount to anything. Such beliefs block your access to whatever improvement you’ve attained over the years, and makes you feel like you’re stuck at square one forever.

You can’t use your new powers, if you don’t believe they exist or could exist in the first place.

Imagine saying to yourself that you ate dinner today, happy now? Why are you not happy? See it’s not working yet, nothing is working. I should just give up on trying to get into a good mood. It’s hopeless.

This is what happens when you say I exercised today, but I still feel like crap. I did this or that which was supposed to fix my mental health, but still it feels like nothing. Nothing happened. It seems that these tips, ideas, or strategies don’t work. Because I tried something, and it still feels as bad as it did before trying it. Why would I think that doing more of the same thing or other things will be any better or will lead to any change that I’m seeking. So you stop doing anything that can potentially get you into a better mood, and now your mood will go back to declining again, instead of steadily going up after everything helpful you do, only to confirm your hypothesis that nothing can help your mood get better these days, there must be something wrong with you.

But you still ate something after dinner when you felt hungry. Somehow you were able to wrap your head around the fact that dinner wasn’t enough for good or for the rest of your day, and so having to eat something else later on that day is totally normal despite the fact that dinner was still amazing. It worked, but not until you sleep that day. And you do that every day without thinking that you should stop eating dinner or give up on eating altogether because it doesn’t work. Dinner didn’t do its job. You still had to eat afterwards.

None of you think this way, but you say hey you did this or that to enjoy yourself, but somehow you still aren’t at peak enjoyment yet after that and you still have to do a ton of other stuff just to get your mood above normal. Think about that.

It’s not a rat race. You’re not a hamster on a wheel trying so hard all the time just to not feel miserable. You’re not insatiable. You don’t have anhedonia, necessarily. It’s not that stuff doesn’t work for you. It’s totally normal. You will never have good mental health without having to work hard to attain and maintain it all day long. There is no one solution that will fix your mental state for good, that you only need to do it once and that’s it. Do everything you can to get there.

And don’t stop because it doesn’t feel good yet.

You can reconcile between the fact that it’s all intentional but they’re totally oblivious to the same pathological or inexcusable behavior only when they do it, in spite of being able to readily recognize the same problematic behavior when others commit the same actions, by realizing that during the time they are defending themselves or being accused of such behavior or crimes, they have to pretend that they are totally innocent in order to get away with it, and in order to succeed in doing so, they have to believe that they really didn’t do it during the setting of the accusation, argument, conversation, or fight, even though they are totally aware of the fact that they are lying to themselves and others.

They have to never think that they are wrong during the accusation of what they know they really did, just to get away from the consequences of their actions.

Nevertheless, they are totally aware of their crimes, lies, and pretending, and it was all intentional.

It is like when you believe your lies when you are telling them, you will sound more like you’re telling the truth, and people will be more likely to believe you in this case.

Outside of the context of them defending themselves or you pointing out the crimes they committed to them in an argument, they totally know what they’re doing, and they’re totally aware of what they’re doing and its effects on their abuse victims, and it was all intentional.

The difference between a psychopath, sociopath, and a narcissist who is not psychopathic or sociopathic, in terms of awareness, is too insignificant and irrelevant to be bothered with. The difference is only in the nature of the delusion and psychosis, not in responsibility, awareness, or intentionality, when it comes to the abuse they inflict upon others, or victimization of others, or crimes they commit. The end result is they are all equal in the amount, magnitude, degree, and severity of how much they are immoral, evil, and criminal.

And even if it were not intentional or done without awareness to it, that changes nothing. It will then still be abusive, and still means they are immoral, and evil. Nevertheless, you have to understand that it was all intentional. That’s why it disappears in front of others, and only takes place behind closed doors, when no one is watching.

We are trying to warn you that there are people who tell you that you are bad and there’s something wrong with you just to destroy you on purpose, not because they think that you are wrong about something but they deliver the message in an offensive way although they have good intentions.

The difference is huge. The latter type is just talking to you casually and doesn’t like something about you. They are wrong to deliver the message to you this way.

But the first type is criminal, sadistic, and evil. They want to bring you down. They want to destroy you because they hate you, because you’re better than them. Huge difference.

It’s not about bad communication when it comes to the first type. It is about bad intentions. Saying that they did something in a wrong way but they love you and have good intentions is the exact opposite of the truth. Don’t let anyone gaslight you into thinking otherwise.

There are evil and immoral people. And it is not because of trauma. And it’s not because they are victims or have been victimized in any way, shape, or form whatsoever in the past. And all the abuse that they’ve inflicted upon you is intentional. All of it.

There’s no denying that fact.

You might not have all the time in the world to enjoy the journey of transformation in this case.

Most of the self-loathing that you have might be originating from feeling that you are going back to your old self that you hated because it was bad for whatever reason.

Whatever that you think is your new self, for some reason, isn’t as solid and firmly established as you want it to be yet, which means you need to rush the process of developing your new self, the one that you have no reason to hate, faster than you think.

It’s like finishing building that new self is an emergency. You can’t afford to enjoy the journey in this case, with disregard to how long it takes you to get there. You are under threat. You are being attacked by people or circumstances that are trying to make sure you never make it. Never succeed in or complete the transformation. Don’t let them. Go as fast as you can. 

These attacks mostly come from sociopathic or narcissistic people who want to make sure you stay the way you are for good, because it is easier for them to victimize and abuse you as long as you are still your old self. It does not necessarily mean that your old self is weak or bad in any way. It just means that it could be easily abused by sociopathic, psychopathic, or narcissistic people. Even if it is still not your fault.

However, if your new self is a threat to the maintenance or continued existence of that abuse and victimization, the abusers will do everything in their power to keep you from being able to become that new better self that cannot somehow be easily abused by them like the older one.

Make sure that does not happen.

You need to transform into that new self by any means necessary, as fast as possible.

You need to become that new better and higher self as soon as possible, no matter what.

All you need to do is just post.

Show up with disregard to your state.

Just like artists produce a sad painting or a piece of music, you can do just that.

You think you’re allowed to show up only when you feel so good. You are wrong.

You can show up as you are right now, even when you’re too sad, discouraged, frustrated, or angry. This is what’s going to make you happy.

It’s not about showing up sad or even faking a smile on your face. It’s about producing a sad piece of content. There’s nothing wrong with that.

Express how you feel and why you feel this way in your content. This is what’s special about being a content creator. You don’t have to force yourself to be or act a certain way that is not in alignment with how you really feel on the inside.

Make the most out of it.

Why do you feel sometimes that it is not worth it to even try anymore.

Most of your problems are due to a general sense of hopelessness you have toward your life or your situation.

You think what’s the point of even trying. The finish line that will get you to a normal average life is too far away.

Sometimes you can think it would take you a lifetime to get there, so why bother. You can fix this, but you didn’t fix that yet. And the amount of stuff that needs fixing is endless.

You need to make a serious difference in your life or situation, or else you will be right about thinking this way, and it will be truly hopeless for you to fix anything or make any difference whatsoever, no matter what you do or how hard you try, for the rest of your life.

Sometimes you are right about being hopeless. It is not always a limiting belief. Not everything is a limiting belief or could be a limiting belief. Sometimes you really are too old. Sometimes it’s really too late. Sometimes there’s nothing you can do about it anymore. Sometimes you no longer have a chance, through no fault of your own. Sometimes you can’t do it. It’s not possible any longer. And it is fact this time, not just a belief.

Make sure you don’t reach that stage, no matter what.

Make sure you do something about it, before it’s too late.

Make sure you make a difference, before you can no longer make a difference.

Make sure that doesn’t happen to you, by any means necessary.