Women don’t think you’re not worthy of their attention. You’re just intimidating. And they don’t understand yet that it is safe to talk to you.
That’s why they flood our DMs on social media when they don’t know who we are.
You must understand, that if a woman initiates talking to you, and you sucked, for whatever reason, they are now stuck in a situation where they don’t know what to do, and there’s no way out. They still have to get rid of you, and they can’t do that violently, as long as you have not committed anything illegal. It is easier for her to ignore you or treat you coldly, if you initiated first, because that is just a reaction that means stay away from me. Somehow, it is easier for women to reject you from the start after the initial evaluation is over, than it is to go towards you with enthusiasm and an open fun spirit, only to find you totally repulsive for reasons that cannot be uncovered until after she already started talking to you. Now she has to turn back from an unsafe situation with a panic attack, shame, embarrassment, and a potential threat to her life or safety. That’s why if you’re a stranger and good-looking and she wants to talk to you, it will be way easier for her to do so if you give her a safe smile like she’s your daughter, than it is if you give her a lustful smile that indicates you find her hot. She likes the validation from the second smile, but she will not initiate talking to you, because it registers as unsafe, or perhaps even potential danger. Since you’re a stranger, if you really find her incredibly hot, and you were alone together, there’s nothing that could stop you from taking advantage of her against her will, even if she still finds you to be beautiful and worthy of dating. And what if you want to hurt her in other ways? Like overpower her and take her stuff away or something. Or just physically harm her for the love of it because you’re sadistic and were just manipulating her in order to hurt her or get what you want from her at the expense of her. All that has to be factored into consideration.
And all of the above has nothing to do with whether or not she really likes you, or finds you attractive.
And that is why most of you guys say I did everything right in terms of becoming a high value man and everything, and still women won’t approach me, ever.
It is because you want to bypass the safety test entirely, and go straight to am I good enough test first, even if the girl still thinks of you as someone who might yell at her if she said hi or good morning in the wrong tone or something.
Lord Vader, this is an unexpected pleasure, we’re honored by your presence.
You may dispense with the pleasantries, commander. I’m here to put you back on schedule.
You look intimidating and unfriendly, flagged as unsafe in women’s mind on sight. That’s why they are scared to talk to you unless they know you. It is not because women don’t talk to strangers. It’s because women don’t talk to scary people.
Otherwise, you’d be able to talk to a stranger waiting for a bus with you if she sees you as safe and fun and worthy of speaking to.
I have been working with extremely hot girls in their twenties who never talked to me and talked to everybody else at work, even though I was still the alpha male.
Once I said the equivalent of hey hey hey, you can talk to me. Talk to me here. Stay with me and tell me what’s wrong and I’ll help.
I forced her to talk to me for professional reasons UNTIL she realized that she’s ALLOWED to talk to me and I’m safe and will never hurt her and nothing bad will happen to her if she talks to me, and I kept all my words strictly PROFESSIONAL as in what should we do about this or that, and will such and such approach or solution work.
Same day I started that with her, she couldn’t stop talking to me as if I am her high school buddy. Calling me from afar to ask about random stuff or ask questions. A day before that, she never said good morning, she passed by me LIKE I DON’T EXIST, and never asked me even a professional question even if she could really use my help now. Even if I’m the one guy at work that can solve all her work problems. She never asked for help, advice, or anything whatsoever. She never even bothered talking to me at all, about anything, for years. She sat for hours with me for years in the office without saying a single word FOR HOURS. Not even hi or bye. Like I don’t exist. And I am superior to her (status), and the same cool guy my whole life. I thought she really hated me, or didn’t like me at all and wanted nothing to to do with me as a human being for the rest of her life. I thought there was something wrong with me. Or at least, she thought there was something wrong with me, because she talked to all other men freely and openly without holding back like there’s no tomorrow. As if she was fearless, and super friendly. I was the only guy who was left out.
Now she talks to me like she cannot believe herself that she could talk to me and nothing bad will happen to her. Like I’m her best friend from kindergarten. Like she has known me for years, on the very same first day I decided to initiate talking to her like I was begging her to talk with me normally and comfortably. As in please please you can talk to me why don’t you talk to me please, do it. You can talk to me. It’s okay. You can talk to me. Hey hey I’m here, tell me about it. Please tell me what’s going on I can help you with that.
That violates everything that has been ever said before in human history when it comes to how to talk to women and approach them.
Don’t sound too needy bro. Be cool bro. Maintain your frame bro. If she’s interested, she’ll come talk to you bro.
I sucked on purpose, just to prove a point.
I needed to force myself into the job interview, and then they’ll realize that I’m their guy, and then they’ll hire me on the spot. Not if we need you, we’ll call you.
I have your numbers. ~ Gustavo Fring
She really found herself talking to me against her will, until she realized I was safe.
Let that sink in. Instead of feeling unsafe because I forced her to talk to me, without any violence, but almost by begging, and slightly forcing her to keep talking to me even if she doesn’t understand what’s going on yet, and making her have no choice but to talk to me even if she doesn’t care yet, she felt safe because of that, compared to how safe she felt concerning talking to me, before I ever tried to initiate talking to her.
Did that make her feel safe, but uncomfortable? Forced into a friendly or professional relationship against her will even if she doesn’t want to? Did that make her feel like now she has to talk to me against her will because we’re coworkers even though she hates me or has no interest or respect towards me whatsoever?
No.
After several attempts of this, she couldn’t stop talking to me or wanting to talk to me on her own willingly every chance she gets. Even when totally unnecessary. Even if there’s no real reason to talk to me at all at the moment. Not to mention sitting next to me, getting closer physically to me when seated next to me even if she’s talking to someone else. And randomly expressing her feelings happily, enthusiastically, and energetically, about random stuff unrelated to work, and is totally not related to work in any way shape or form. All on the very first day of the initiation.
She’s now comfortable talking to me, like she has known me for life, more than she ever talked to any other guy at work, since the very first day of me initiating talking to her, not just respectfully as random coworkers, but like she finally found something she’s been looking for her whole life, for the very first time. She could not stop herself from talking to me for the rest of the day on her own, every chance she gets, with maximum friendliness, warmth, enthusiasm, kindness, happiness, care, love, respect, and comfort humanly possible.
She talked to me like she finally found her true love and super hero. Like she’s talking to the strongest Avenger.
STRONGEST AVENGER! ~ Thor
Not gonna lie, I enjoyed it, and I felt alive.
All I did was talk to her. Two minutes.
I did not build any muscle. I did not wear anything different. I did not work on my charisma or game. I did not make any money. I did not level up my social status or my placement in the dominance hierarchy. I didn’t buy a new car. I don’t even have a freaking car.
I just talked to the girl, with disregard to her opinion, come hell or high water, until she saw for herself that I’m her dream guy it would be stupid of her to miss out on having fun with me and talking to me for the rest of her life.
What are you trying to say to me, that I need to build muscle and then all the girls will flood my DMs and come get my number?
No, Neo. I’m telling you when you’re ready, you won’t have to.
All I did was talk to her AGAINST HER WILL until she got the message hammered in her head, that she is allowed to talk to me and I’ll not feel bad if she talked to me for any reason whatsoever.
I tried that on every single female coworker that I came across or had access to in real life at work so far, even the married ones, and the ones who had a boyfriend who they were in a stable relationship with and weren’t looking for an alternative, and got the same results, every single time. Girl talking to everybody in a super friendly manner for years or months and laughing and everything with no boundaries, except me. All treating me like I don’t exist, before the encounter. Before I decided to talk to her for around two minutes and every chance I can get, until she felt safe.
All showed signs of extreme sexual or romantic interest, and not just friendliness, from the start. Since the very first day, of the encounter. Since the very first day I tried talking to them.
I did not use any pickup lines. I did not use the art of how to get the girl in under two minutes. No special conversation starters, or special tactics to keep the conversation going or flowing until I ask her out or successfully land the date. Nothing about me has changed. I’m already top one percent from the start. It wasn’t because I was a stranger to them or the environment was too unsafe to get to know anyone. We were coworkers for years and I was always a ten out of ten Chad high value man with groundbreaking Charisma, beauty, charm, and irresistible irreplaceable unkillable personality and character. Capable of making women laugh more than Jimmy Carr, stronger than Andrew Tate, Smarter than Jordan Peterson.
As wise as Master Yoda, and as powerful as Master Windu. ~ Anakin Skywalker
Yet they still all didn’t give a damn.
Which means all your theories about why women won’t approach men who are perfect in every way imaginable are all wrong.
They will not talk to you, if you are a really high value man, because your presence is intimidating it gives them paralysis. They can’t handle it. Unless you make them feel safe enough to do so. Not by saying the right words. But by just talking to them with respect and interest until they realize you’re safe, interested, and have no problem whatsoever with talking to them for hours on end every single day for the rest of your life.
I thought women didn’t care that I exist. I had no idea that it was because they were intimidated by my presence. Four years ago any woman who found me hot never stopped flirting with me on her own and all I had to do was smile and laugh until they’re done flirting and talking. Now, there’s presence that was forged throughout the years, that I forgot to factor in, because it never mattered when I was younger. Women are afraid to talk to you, until you show them it’s safe. Do not assume that since she never approached me FOR YEARS, ever, that this means she doesn’t care about me and wants nothing to do with me. You could be her dream guy. Her prince charming. Her super hero. All you need to do, is talk to her, with disregard to her current seemingly low level of interest, until she understands, that talking to you, is not a crime that will get her thrown in jail for life.
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