The real reason why you’re reluctant to go all in on video. Assuming you have what it takes to be a public speaker or to be charismatic enough on camera.

Yeah, I know quality matters more, but in this case, quantity comes first, at least in the beginning only. This is not about marketing or initial growth. This is about eliminating the fear of being monitored while recording yourself on camera.

It feels like we have to embarrass ourselves on camera tens of times in a row before our minds start behaving like our normal on camera. It’s like running into a mirror. Can’t help but make weird faces.

You have to make tons of videos first before you start looking and sounding like you really are in real life, not better, just the same as you are in real life.

Your subconscious holds you back from being normal on camera for some reason, until you accumulate enough hours on camera publicly or online. You can actually be amazing at public speaking, but as soon as the camera starts running, you start being mindful of how you move, look like, and sound like, as if you’re monitoring yourself closely under the microscope every millisecond. It’s not because of excessive self criticism, or being too hard on yourself. It just happens on its own like digestion. I felt there was an elephant on my head for years every time I attempted to make a video or speak in front of a camera with the intention of publishing it online afterwards. It’s not because of fear of judgment, it’s because your body holds you back from being at your normal on camera for other reasons.

You might think you are one, although you’re not. Here’s why.

You do not become a narcissist because you’ve been around a bunch of narcissists for quite some time. It doesn’t work this way. You have to lack the ability to have a self, and then hide that reality by being a fake self that is perfectly designed to feed on the life force of others, or else you wouldn’t be able to sustain your existence. You also have to lack empathy, not because you don’t have time, you’re focused, or you’re going through tough times yourself, but for no excuse, and with everything or toward everyone. You are also expected to have a sense of superiority that means it’s okay to abuse others, you are also expected to think you are above accountability, and to have a continuous desire to perpetually prove to others how superior you are to them through relentlessly attempting to destroy their lives. Feeling overconfident is not enough. It has to be to the extent of having no problem with abusing others since you’re that awesome and special. You can actually argue that having great self confidence alone is a good thing. You have to want to abuse others because of that sense of superiority, or else you aren’t and can’t be narcissistic. There’s no such thing as a narcissistic person who doesn’t survive on getting supply from surrounding people through abusing them. It’s not a matter of whether they’ll ever abuse you, it’s only a matter of when.

It’s not toxic hustle culture, it’s the only option available.

When you are in a tough situation, you need to focus on getting out of there as fast as you can.

Normal business as usual ways of living a peaceful and happy life don’t apply here. You cannot think about prosperity and luxury when you’re having a hard time surviving. It doesn’t mean you’re running in survival mode when it’s no longer necessary. It means that your survival is still threatened. You need to focus on making it out of the unfavorable or bad environment or circumstances without getting pulled right and left by things that shouldn’t be a concern for someone who is still struggling to survive or breathe. You shouldn’t try to apply every strategy that you know that is made for people who are not stuck in a situation, with circumstances, or in an environment that makes their survival or them having or living a normal life impossible. It is then absurd to discourage them from going all in on fixing their life or overcoming their hurdles. Calling that toxic hustle culture is an abomination, and a sign of unchecked privilege of people who have no idea what real suffering looks like. People encouraging each other to win, to make it out of the hell hole they’ve been stuck in for as long as they can remember is not toxic, it’s heroic. Do what you can to get out of there alive, in one piece, by any means necessary, and then you can start worrying about burnout and adopting a business as usual lifestyle and work ethic or style that is more sustainable.

The story behind me quitting medical practice.

I quit practicing medicine because I felt I was in hell and I burnt-out after 15 minutes. It’s not how long the shift is. It’s what you do during it that counts.

People talk about working less all the time in order to avoid burnout.

If you did something that holds you back from being at your full potential while doing it you’ll always burnout within a few minutes of starting or doing it. Even if you’re passionate about it and it’s insanely and incontrovertibly meaningful. If what you do does not exercise your full powers to the maximum, you will never find any fulfillment in it, and you will always burnout while doing it prematurely.

The real hurdle people struggle with when it comes to video making.

I find that the main obstacle people have when it comes to video making is thinking in front of the camera. A lot of people think that this is forbidden for some reason and should always be edited out. It’s okay to pause and gather your own thoughts.

Do not try to make up for messing up through excessive editing. It’s okay to stutter, stumble, or struggle while shooting your video. It’s okay to forget what you wanted to say. It’s okay to take time to form the point or how you’re going to say the point on video.

When you’re not allowing yourself to make mistakes in front of the camera, you will be unable to ever speak in front of the camera without editing. You’d rather not make a video at all in the first place, either because you are not allowed to make a fool out of yourself on video, or because you’d rather avoid another overwhelming session of endless editing that will inevitably take place afterwards.

The only reason no one bothers trying to help narcissistic abuse survivors despite knowing everything going on behind closed doors is because it’s a systemic issue where they’re all watching and doing nothing. As long as it’s not domestic physical violence or sexual assault, why should they care? This is why we always assume people who dismiss it this way to be partners in the crime.

It’s okay to change in order to become a better person. It’s not okay to change in order to appease, manipulate, or please another person.

You don’t have to change yourself or who you are in order to remain in any kind of relationship or for the sake of meeting the criteria that another person will only approve or accept you when you do. You don’t have to change in order to get into or stay in a relationship with anybody else. On that we agree.

Nevertheless, you still have to change in order to reach your full potential and become the person that you’re truly meant to be. If you are reluctant to change in order to improve yourself as an individual, you will be doomed to remain the way you are for the rest of your life.