The real reason behind your creativity block.

Trying to push yourself during times of creativity block can feel sometimes like you’re trying to squeeze new ideas or realizations out of yourself, or forcing yourself to come up with something new anyway although you have enough knowledge or ideas already.

I understand that you need to be always in the process of creating something new in order to keep your creativity sharp. But withholding yourself from creating anything at all because you haven’t discovered anything new will not increase your creative output. It’s like perfectionistic tendencies that makes you set standards that if you are not certain you’re going to meet, you’d rather not even try. It’s good to try to discover new concepts, ideas, principles, findings, or discoveries as much as you possibly can, but you still need to decouple having to create something new on a regular basis from having to discover something new on a regular basis, if you ever wish to maximize your creative output, or satisfy your creativity needs to the fullest. You can’t keep satisfying your need for creativity contingent upon satisfying your need for discovering, or else one of the two will always be held back by the other.

You can create something new without learning or discovering something new that increases your knowledge or experience. Still, you are bound to create something new because of whatever that you discover sooner or later.

It’s always a good idea to separate between the process of creating on the regular and discovering something new. Waiting until you discover something groundbreaking first before attempting to create another masterpiece is arguably the biggest reason why you suffer from creativity block every now and then. Start before you’re ready. Allow yourself to engage in the creative process even if you have nothing new to offer. If you are not allowed to create unless you discover something new first, you will hardly end up creating anything, and you will also be reluctant to discover anything new because lack of creativity now has become your favorite comfort zone. Both your creative output and how much you discover on the regular will decline gradually until you slowly become normal.

These are the last days of opportunity to grow on TikTok. It’s over for Instagram. Don’t make the same mistake again.

Even before reels were introduced, the reach was better.

Even after reels were introduced, during late 2020, and early 2021, the reach was better, with every other type of post available.

Even when they said Instagram growth is over in 2019 because the organic reach has greatly declined, it was stellar compared to what it became in 2020 since the introduction of reels.

On the other hand, TikTok still offers the chance to grow even if you are still below one thousand followers. And it has been declining since the beginning of this year at light speed. It’s only a matter of a few weeks until it joins ranks with Instagram. To get a clear picture on what’s going on over there, Mel Robbins just started trying to grow recently on TikTok. This is how new the platform is.

I’m not talking about leaving Instagram, it’s about not trying to grow on Instagram as much, no matter how easy others might claim it to be. Intention matters, and if you’re getting frustrated every day from doing everything right in order to grow on Instagram, but still you find yourself stuck at the same number of followers, reach, and engagement rate or amount as that of last year, then you will find yourself gradually finding no reason to keep going as hard, not just on Instagram, but perhaps in the entirety of what you’re trying to do to get your life or business off the ground altogether. Frustration will keep extending to other areas of your life, until you eventually find no point or meaning in any area or aspect of your life that you’re trying to improve. You are your business, as they say. And if you constantly feel frustrated, angry, and hopeless, that will definitely extend to other areas of your life or business, and start to inevitably negatively affect your performance. I’m picturing someone here who is stuck at life because they’re stuck with failure to grow on Instagram for years despite doing everything right. I don’t want you to end up being like that. It’s not a case of addiction here, but if you wanted something so bad, even if you were offered better things afterwards instead of it, you will still be unable to get any reward from the new things until you get the anticipated or desired reward from the first thing you got attached to, even though the alternatives presented to you are arguably way better in every way than the first thing, and they’d certainly lead to the same results that you’re after all along. Not only do you want to reach a certain outcome, you also want to get there in a certain particular way, even if that way is longer or harder.

This time it’s not just lower than it used to be. It’s almost non-existent. I’m talking about people with fifty thousand followers or above getting the same reach that someone below five thousand followers used to get during early 2021, even though they are super professional and popular, and they didn’t do anything wrong.

It’s okay to have a permanent military presence on Instagram. Just don’t think there’s any new territory left for you to conquer.

This is for Instagram.

You may have tried a lot of hashtag sets or groups that work for a lot of other people with the same niche or target audience as you, but you consistently fail to get the same results, even after taking the difference in engagement and number of followers into consideration.

Aside from the fact that there are a lot of people who use hashtags that totally have nothing to do with the topic of the post, their niche, or their target audience, there are other forces that seem to be at play here.

Whether or not the people who regularly check out the hashtags you use will find your posts or page interesting to them is a whole different story.

It’s not just the size of the hashtag or how active it is. It’s who regularly checks out those hashtags and whether or not they’d like or care about your content in particular, even if other people with similar niches or target audience are doing better and getting more engagement with those same hashtags.

To a narcissist, reality and truth don’t matter. They only care about looks and perceived greatness, even if entirely fake, and they know it is.

Narcissists take the shape of the container. Whatever that they can do, according to what’s available in the current environment, they have no problem doing it, with disregard to how that would hurt you at present, or in the future.

It is not subconscious. It is not something they have no control over. It is all deliberate, intentional, and conscious. They know what they’re doing, and they love it.

The thing is, they find weaknesses in you, and they attack them. You might say, well I am tough and I have no weaknesses. That’s true. I’m not denying that. But the problem is with perceived strength, as opposed to actual strength. You, for some reason, appear to be weak to them at this instance. Think of it as appearing impatient, already annoyed, or irritable. Peeved. Or just tired or sleepy. You, in this case, represent an easy target, that could be attacked by any coward, with hardly any negative consequences.

Perceived weakness plays a very important role in this case. You look weak to the narcissist, even if you actually aren’t weak, either generally at all times, or just at such an instance only. As long as they think you are weak, and that they have an opportunity to attack you, and that they can hurt you, they will not hesitate, they will attack and attempt to hurt you in one way or the other, by any means necessary, without any empathy, sense of guilt or remorse whatsoever.

There’s nothing that is going to happen if they didn’t attack you in this instance. Yet, it is impossible to find a single instance where this was the case, and that was your state, without being right every single time about your prediction. They are going to attack you, every single time, because there’s an opportunity, even if there was nothing at all to gain from that attack except supply. They attack you, because they can. This is the shape of the container, and they are always going to take it, like water does with any container it gets poured into. The only difference is that they choose to do so, every single time. They still have nothing to lose if they missed that opportunity and didn’t try to attack you.

On the other hand, psychopaths don’t take the shape of the container, they invent it. They will attack you, even if you were perceived by them to be stronger than them, whether generally or at that moment in particular. They don’t care about proving their superiority as much, although all those who are high in psychopathic traits are also very high in narcissistic and machiavelian traits, they care more about destroying you, by any means necessary, even if they managed to prove that you are superior to them in the process.

Why you tend to criticize yourself too harshly every step of the way, despite being fairly productive.

You will always have a tendency to criticize your work right after you finish it, because you’ve exerted a lot of energy making it, and so the question was it worth the effort and time will always be there, even if you did a good job.

You are also processing what has happened, and growing because of it.

That doesn’t mean that you are too hard on yourself or your self esteem is too low.

It also may be because the same reasons why you hate your life are still there untouched, and you haven’t moved an inch away from them after having exerted all that effort. Also after all this work, you may have less energy, but you are certainly more active than before you started working today, and thus you become more capable of detecting why your life sucks more than how clearly you normally can. If you happened to not get enough reward from what you worked towards achieving today, you’d definitely feel worse afterwards, like nothing ever happens no matter how hard you try. You’d start to feel hopeless, and ask yourself: what’s the point? Nothing that you ever do changes anything. It never has, and it never will.

In this case, you either fix your situation, or produce massive results that grant you enough reward that makes you say: nevertheless, I ended up with a masterpiece today. Certainly better than running around all day hoping to feel good at some point when everything that you know your life sucks because of still remains intact.

What if I told you that the overwhelming majority of people never rested a second of their whole life? For some reason, they are afraid of absolute rest that should take place outside of sleep because they think they won’t be able to come back or something. Even meditation is a focusing exercise, and thus cannot be considered a form of absolute rest. You are performing a complex and kind of annoying task when you’re brushing your teeth. Some people consider reading books to be a form of rest. Most people consider anything that has nothing to do with their work to be rest, when simply that couldn’t be further from the truth! As long as you are supposed to get a certain outcome from anything, even if it’s easy, it doesn’t qualify as rest. Absence of goal oriented behavior or pursuing any kind of outcome is key when it comes to absolute rest. Sleep has a lot of purposes. Repairing your body and setting it up for a whole new day is not an easy endeavor. Reducing the activity of and effort exerted by your brain and body is essential. Without this, absolute rest will be impossible, even if you are definitely not working. Since most people are unaware of these facts, they attempt to bypass the entirety of the process by making their whole life easier, through for example something like getting an easy job that never disrupts their perpetual state of lack of having to do anything in their life that has the potential of getting them a little bit tired.

If you find yourself fantasizing about quitting working for yourself and getting a regular good old average regular job, ask yourself why you have that thought pattern in particular. Why not become a professional athlete instead for example? Why do you have a regular 9 – 5 associated with being an easy escape or an easier, and thus better life for you. You can have self-sabotaging fantasies about quitting something that is perfectly designed for you, despite not wanting to, but why do these fantasies always wind up being a 9 – 5? Think about that. Perhaps you need to start associating comfort with just chilling on the couch doing nothing, instead of getting a job to get to finally having an easy life with no daily struggles whatsoever.

Perhaps you just want to look like or appease the majority of people.

There’s no comfort in something outside of your nature. You’re smarter than that. Don’t betray your most authentic self. Be what you’re truly meant to be, even if it’s going wrong.

If being an entrepreneur is wrong, I don’t want to be right.

What you’re about to say, I don’t wanna know.

You know sometimes you feel reluctant to say or do something because you’re afraid what a certain bunch of people would think. Not what everybody would think, just a certain handful of people. In this case, I got a trick that might actually lessen that hesitation. Imagine they’re all dead, preferably due to no fault of your own, and proceed accordingly.

Sometimes you feel like there’s a handbrake that gets pulled on its own whenever you attempt to do one thing or the other. You know there’s nothing wrong with what you want to do, and you have no reason at all to prevent yourself from doing it. Except one reason, the judgment, criticism, or opinion of a few particular people who have abused you countless times in the past for years. When you try to implement the general strategy of not giving a damn what anybody else thinks of you or whatever that you do with your life, for some reason it doesn’t work in this case, despite the rule being that general and encompassing.

In this case you have no option but to create a sub rule that is designed specifically for these motherfuckers.

You specifically are becoming more and more reluctant and hesitant to say or do anything, literally anything, because of what will go inside the heads of those people if they happen to come across whatever that you say or do anywhere someday.

This is not about you being shy, embarrassed, or an introvert. This is not basic fear of what others might think negatively of you or your content. This is you’re so sick and disgusted after decades of abuse you don’t want to come across whatever the fuck they have to say concerning whatever that has anything to do with you, your words, your actions, or your life. You’re done. And you’ve had enough of their idiocy for a lifetime.

So you keep burying yourself under the ground because of that. Which is not what I want you to do with yourself or your life. All because you’re too kind and gentle to fight back. Even if they’re not going to judge you or say anything negative concerning you or your work. You still are too disgusted you don’t want to even know what these creeps think. You don’t want them to touch you, neither physically, nor metaphorically. You don’t want your life to be touched by these people. You want nothing to do with them. You want to live in an entirely different universe where they don’t ever have a chance to exist in. Even if what they have to say is pure positivity, you don’t want to hear it, you don’t want to know it, you don’t want to come across it, and you want to stay away from it as far as possible. What you’re about to say, I don’t want to know. Enough with the poison. Enough with the desecration. Move out, go no contact, and live your life as if they’re no longer among the living. Don’t let those garbage humans win. Save yourself. Do something.

Some apologists for atrocities just love to keep embarrassing themselves. Shameless.

Why you simply can’t defend manipulative behavior.

There are people who think it’s perfectly normal, and there are people who only do it when their lives are on the line. Learn the difference.

We’ll it’s interesting that manipulation apologists tend to minimize or downplay the magnitude of the situation, by saying stuff like everybody does it and they had no choice and they don’t have any bad intentions.

They seem to miss a tiny little fact about what they’re advocating for though.

People who exhibit chronic pathological manipulative behavior never try to be straightforward with you. They are doing it for the love of it. They do it because they can, and because they see an opportunity, so why not. Like parasites, they are just looking for a host that they can suck dry without giving a damn. They are manipulative from the start out of the blue before getting rejected, and it’s not just one tiny little favor that won’t hurt, it’s loads and loads of mindblowing stuff that turns out to be fake years later. She didn’t have to fake the orgasm. She could’ve just told me I sucked.

You can’t apologize for that.

Why everybody is abusing story telling thinking that this somehow is making the world a better place.

I know that it is your job to tell your story for modern marketing purposes. Just make sure you don’t remain telling us the same fake, useless, pointless, or made up story over and over again. We need value, not pretending to be somebody.

I understand that you’re trying to sound relatable. I know you’re trying to attract a certain target audience who will resonate with your situation or story. I understand that you’re doing this for good PR or marketing purposes. Aside from it being all fake and manipulative, in its entirety, I’ve got one question for you still. Have you tried delivering your same message or value without the bullshit story, and then see whether or not it will be any less interesting, effective, helpful, valuable, important, or beneficial? I bet you didn’t. Because all you do is do some shit because they told you so.

You will forever be oblivious to the fact that the overwhelming majority of books authored by you or anybody else is useless, not despite, but because it’s filled with unnecessary stories that for some reason you felt the need to shove them within whatever you wanted to explain as if this would make your work appear less naked and empty than it actually is.

The audacity of you thinking you made it because you had a good story to tell.

This is what fiction and biographies are for, hon.

Sometimes less is more.

One of the secrets I’ve discovered about reels is that when you’re a small creator, and you share the reels to your audience’s home feed, it will not appear in the reels tab. But if you do not share it to feed, it will get free exposure in the reels tab even before it gets good engagement. This will drive in new people more, because your followers already know you, and since it will not get hundreds of likes, it won’t be pushed towards new people later on. People always think they’ll get double exposure if they share their reels to the home feed of their followers, both in the reels tab and the home feed of their followers. That is just not true. You only get one line of exposure. One is with the people who are already following you, whilst the other one is where all the new people are hanging around in. Choose wisely.