Stop giving consent or permission to people to abuse you or drain your energy. You are important!

A few unrelated thoughts:

Happiness becomes attainable only after your brain is convinced that you are safe.

Do what suits you. Find the right person for you. Take your time. Don’t let anyone pressure you into changing your standards.

Sometimes even the most sincere of apologies has no effect.

Pick happiness over money. It’s not about how much money you make. It’s about how you make money or how you make that money.

Don’t be a dumpster for other people’s negative emotions.

I used to walk into a room and wonder if they will like me. Now I wonder if I will like them.

Do the world a favor and believe in your greatness. Stop being lesser than you’re capable of. Don’t be ashamed of being special or unique.

I will not apologize for being who I am. It is you who should apologize for asking me to be a fake version of myself.

Exactly. Be unapologetically you! Don’t adjust your character to avoid rejection by people who don’t even care you exist.

It’s time you took that following your passion thing more seriously.

Following your passion isn’t a luxury as it used to be. People are too many now, and they are competing with each other at virtually everything. If you are not phenomenally amazing at what you do, the competition will sweep you away like dust. You will become irrelevant in no time. This isn’t to discourage you at all. This is just a wake up call for you to stop doing what you hate to barely make a living, because what you hate will very likely be something that countless other people love doing or have no problem at all with doing it all the time for the same amount of money and recognition you get for it, so why bother. Unless you can stand doing what you’re doing for scary long amounts of time every day you won’t stand a chance. If it’s not your passion then at least make sure you’d rather do this all day long than any other choice. This is for a simple reason. Success in the past was too easy. Now it’s unfairly and unreasonably too difficult. If you are not able to tolerate long working hours in something, you will be cast aside by someone who is happily more willing to put in more work in that thing or that field than you normally do or can take or tolerate, and they will easily win you not because they outsmarted you, but because they just outworked you. Yes we know that we should work smart but not hard, but nowadays, it has become a necessity to work both smart and hard. Yes I understand that you don’t have to work all the time to be happy because money isn’t everything, but if you don’t love what you do enough, you will very easily fail at it, even if it’s a boring average corporate job, and thus you’ll end up with no money at all to even survive, and that would still bother you despite the fact that more money isn’t the ultimate gateway to happiness and fulfillment. You can’t compete with people at something you can barely stand doing every day. They would always do better than you because they’re willing to put in more hours of work and practice daily, whereas you are just counting the hours and minutes until the work time is over, so that you start living. This isn’t just bad for your happiness, well-being, and fulfillment. This is also bad for your success, productivity, and financial freedom.

Following your passion is divine.

You’re not thinking negative thoughts because you’re not positive enough. You’re like that because your mind is tired of being stuck with a loser like you. The only way out is to make your mind shut up by winning more.

The reason why you keep playing all the horrible history you’ve been through in your head over and over again is that your mind is telling you that you’re responsible for us being miserable like this from the start. Your mind is not blaming others for your incompetence or failure, because if it were, it would’ve sympathized with you and deployed compassion toward you, instead of attacking you and criticizing you in the form of making you replay how much others, the government, the economy, the circumstances, or fate have all conspired against you to bring you down, torture you, and make your life a living hell since the moment you were born.

Do not fight this battle. Do not try to convince your mind that you’re already doing your best to fix everything and protect yourself more. It will not listen to you. The only way to shut down this self loathing battle fought by your own mind against you is to win more and win enough times until your mind feels there’s no need to attack you over your past failures, suffering, shortcomings, mistakes, or misery any further. In other words prove to your mind that you were capable of making a positive difference in your life, instead of telling it I’m doing my best or I’m a victim, it wasn’t my fault.1d

Rest is not a crime. But are you generally wasting more time than normal doing useless stuff, but still complaining that the progress is too small? Or are you working like a pro every minute of every day, so that when you take some time to rest or sleep longer, this wouldn’t slow your progress down?

There are sometimes when you cannot get reward except from a certain type of work. Even if something is right, an amazing idea, or the one type of task that will get you dramatically ahead in your career or professional life, any kind of reward that you can get from doing it right now or currently sometimes might be blocked, even if it is otherwise insanely potentially rewarding, because there’s something else that your mind has decided to not get any reward from anything else other than this one particular goal or type of task or work.

The reason why you’re struggling with being successful or productive is that you haven’t succeeded, won, or produced, achieved, or created amazing or great stuff enough times in the past. Your training to become more successful, more productive, or better in any way should involve practical segments of aiming at nothing but doing or finishing something without failing.

A lot of the time you find yourself thinking: there are several choices that I should pick one of them to begin doing or working on now. All these choices are stuff that falls under the same category of work. They are not necessarily of equal importance, priority, or effect concerning the general outcomes that you intend to reach with your work today. Pick any random one of these choices. Completely arbitrarily. Even if your choice doesn’t make any sense right now. Even if it were the worst of these choices. It doesn’t matter, as long as it wasn’t from a pool of choices that has nothing to do with your work goals of the day.

We should learn to control ourselves to be able to work smarter instead of automating ourselves to work harder for a longer time without being aware of ourselves and present at the current moment. It’s not just about implementing unique strategies that are going to get you there quicker or easier. It’s about being more awake and alive while you’re working. It’s about actually being smart while working as opposed to applying smart techniques, tricks, and hacks.