Your focus on how to win is what’s making you lose most of the time.

Sometimes you lose because you did everything right. Sometimes you lose because you were right, or because you did the right thing. Sometimes you win because you did something wrong according to your own subjective opinion or according to objective moral standards. It doesn’t have to happen every time, but it can. You win when you win, not necessarily because of what you did or think you did in order to win. Whatever lessons you think you’ve learned from failure are just futile attempts committed by your mind in order to avoid facing the fact that you’ve absolutely failed at something, wasted your time, and have learned nothing in the process. Whatever you learn or presume to have learned from failure only happens to you when you succeed, and your arrogance tries to extend that success to include everything in your past, even the countless failed attempts that have lead to nothing but frustration and questioning any certain beliefs or memories you already have. Whatever that you presume you succeeded or won because of has nothing to do with why you actually succeeded or won, until proven otherwise. There’s a reason that scientific research doesn’t rely upon the results that have been tested only once. Thinking that you can learn from every single instance of failure that you can ever go through is the epitome of denial, arrogance, and delusion. How many times have you been asked how did you do it, and the answer was something like: I have no idea. But for some reason, every single time you fail, you have the option to know, realize, or learn how you can win next time with unshakable certainty. But when you implement what you’ve just learned, you can still fail nevertheless. But this time you really really know why you failed all those previous times, and will definitely win next time. You just need a second chance. This time you’ll definitely win or succeed, because you’ve learned all there is to know, because you’ve failed enough already. You don’t see any cognitive distortion of reality over here. All you see is motivation and positivity. But you are the same person who believes that doing the same things over and over again will not lead to different or favorable results. By changing nothing, nothing will change. And repeatedly failed attempts with the belief that you’ve definitely learned something new this time that’ll make you succeed or win next time is not an example of doing the same things over and over again hoping to get different or better results this time. Because you were told that there’s no such thing as failure, by people who never failed long enough in their life.

We don’t do the right thing because it will increase our chances of winning or succeeding. We do it, because it’s the right thing.