It doesn’t always mean that you suck and you need to change anything. It doesn’t always mean there’s something for you to learn. Not all failure is your fault. Sometimes you lose, just because this is what happened. You won’t necessarily find any lessons to learn from your failure this time. In this case, you only need one thing. Stop failing. Don’t fail again.

The problem is that you are still stuck with everything that is making your life a living hell. Nothing has changed so far, concerning what you were struggling with from the start. Whatever that you were complaining about or because of decades ago is still intact. Is still bothering you to this day. Is still there as it is, as if this is still day one in your journey of struggle. What’s responsible for your suffering, the moment you came to this world, is still out there, and is still making you miserable. Nothing has changed. It feels like an eternity in hell.

None of this means you don’t deserve any better. None of this means you don’t have what it takes to deserve a better life. None of the above indicates that you’re under qualified, incompetent, useless, worthless, ugly, stupid, ignorant, or lacking in terms of self efficacy. You don’t necessarily need to become more powerful to overcome those challenges. You just need to win this time.

Master Yoda: No more training do you require. Already know you that which you need.

Luke Skywalker: Then I am a Jedi.

Master Yoda: Not yet. One thing remains… Vader. You must confront Vader. Then, only then, a Jedi will you be.