Think about it this way. Narcissists just do what if they did, they will not be in danger. They will not be harmed or punished. They will not suffer any negative consequences. Everything that you think they do because they know is what is socially acceptable they don’t do it in order to not scare people away, but because they are cowards and are afraid of the consequences of doing the unacceptable. Whatever abuse they do behind closed doors is only done because there are no consequences. Remember, they are like water, they take the shape of the container. Whatever abuse they can do and suffer no negative consequences because of, they will do it, even if it makes every single individual on the face of the earth angry at them and hate them. Again, they don’t care about others leaving them or rejecting them. They are scared of others making them pay for what they did to them. Since there are no consequences whatsoever for all abuse possible behind closed doors, they leave no form of abuse behind. They do all forms and ways of abuse possible, which distinguishes narcissistic abuse from other types of abuse, because nothing happens to them when they do. That’s why the only thing that works is absolute, pure, and total no contact. Any other solution is delusional. 

It is called narcissistic abuse, because whether or not the abuse was done by a narcissistic psychopath, or sociopath, or a malignant narcissist, or a covert narcissist, the content of the abuse itself and what happens in it and how it all happens, is almost the same. Identical. Anything else outside of narcissistic abuse that a psychopath or a sociopath can add to the mix can always fall under other types of abuse, like physical abuse, sexual abuse, etc.

Let’s assume what I said here is not so accurate, and can be proven wrong for any reason whatsoever. Still, that changes nothing. The abuse that you get from all types of narcissists and sociopaths and psychopaths is almost identical in nature. Any variation is happening because of the nature of the environment where the abuse is taking place. If there are no restrictions, no negative consequences whatsoever that can happen to the abuser as a consequence of their abuse, they will all resort to violence. They will all do the same crimes, with the same intensity and magnitude. They will all add sexual and physical abuse and violence up to murder to their abuse. They will all be equally bad, criminal, harmful, malevolent, evil, and immoral. They will all be equally hateful and disgusting. They are all the same. They are all identical. It is just that they operate differently according to the situation and environment they’re in.

I am not telling you this because I am downplaying how bad a psychopath is, or exaggerating how bad a narcissist is. As far as you are concerned, both are equally dangerous to you, and you should try to save yourself and your life and escape for good instantly and immediately, with the same maximum urgency, equally in both cases, whether the abuser is a narcissist or a psychopath. Whether or not the abuser is a narcissist or a psychopath or a sociopath is none of your business, and is irrelevant when it comes to how much you are in danger because you are stuck with them, and how much you need to escape the narcissistic abuse situation instantly and immediately, and how much you need to go no contact with your abusers totally and absolutely for the rest of your life.

All of these decisions do not change from one case to another, because one of the abusers is more dangerous than the other, or one of the abusers is a psychopath, while the other is a sociopath, while the third is only a malignant narcissist, and the fourth is but a humble covert narcissist. In all cases the decision is the same, no contact, for good, no matter what, or they will destroy your life for good, beyond repair, no matter what.

This is as brain dead as saying if the attacker is a mountain lion, it’s dangerous, contact authorities immediately, and do not try to fight back! But if the attacker is a wolf, no biggie, and you don’t have to take as drastic as life saving measures in case of the wolf, as you should do in a case of the mountain lion attack, because the wolf is significantly weaker than a mountain lion, and size matters. Both will equally eat you alive, and both will kill you instantly. You’ll just die instantly, equally, in both cases. The outcome, in both cases, is equal, and is the same. Identical.

I literally don’t understand how on earth would anyone claim to have your best interest in mind and still manage to say to you something like, hey, if your abuser is violent or a psychopath, terminate the relationship immediately before this video ends and run away as far as possible with nothing but the clothes on your back, and never look back. And then contact and inform the legal and criminal justice system immediately about your current situation and seek help right away from the law enforcement.

But if the abuser is but a humble harmless coward narcissist, nah, take your time. Just don’t respond to them or engage with them. Don’t explain, don’t argue, don’t fight back, don’t give or show negative or positive emotions, don’t defend yourself, and don’t take it personally, but keep living under the same roof, because it’s not violent. This statement is narcissistic abuse in and of itself, and exposes massive ignorance when it comes to narcissism and narcissistic abuse. No contact is the bare minimum, and is a must, no matter what. Even if you have kids with the narcissist. Any other proposed solution or way of handling the situation is self-sabotage and self-harm and is on par with committing suicide. Any politically correct individual who is hypocritical and only wants to not scare people away might not tell you the truth, and tell you I will not tell you to go no contact, necessarily. For them, it’s just business, nothing personal. They don’t care about your best interest, because if they did, they will shame you for not going no contact all those years, for your own good. At least for as long as you were aware of the nature of narcissistic abuse and the importance of no contact.

Do not waste your time. Do not waste your life. There’s no excuse for not going no contact. Leave now, before it’s too late.

Any excuse you give for not going no contact yet is just self-sabotage and coming from huge unacceptable levels of self-loathing.

Save yourself, before it’s too late.

Save yourself, before you regret it for the rest of your life.