There are evil people out there. How could you be so naive?!

Notice when someone is controlling or moving their body like it’s not their own. That’s a huge red flag.

Too much goal oriented behavior when it comes to a casual laid-back conversation indicates that you are being manipulated heavily, unless proved otherwise. It signifies that there is ample reward to be reaped from such interaction that is out of proportion to whatever that you can extract from it, which means there are ulterior motives or hidden agendas that justify pouring all this effort or energy into something that would otherwise not reward you as much in case you had no intention aside from expressing how much you love someone you’re dating or your partner. It might mean the world to the person on the receiving end of such declarations, but this is just saying something you already know if you are the one who is expressing their feelings in this situation. If you are expecting to move mountains because of saying how much you love someone, that might be normal or reasonable in some cases or instances, but it does not exclude that the intention behind it might very likely be massive manipulation. Not only does it indicate that they don’t believe what they’re saying, and that’s why it looks like they’re forcing themselves to spit it out anyway, without it being naturally articulated, it also indicates that they have no problem with spending tons of energy controlling themselves and forcing themselves to say something they know is not true, because the reward they expect to receive in the future in return for committing such an atrocity makes spending all this energy and exerting all this effort to successfully lie to you, so worth it. Imagine what they are looking forward to extracting from you as an ultimate reward that would make such an effort seem like a fair price. You may think telling a single lie is not that hard. But it wasn’t just a single lie. It’s being hypocritical all the time from the start. It’s telling you such lies over and over again while looking you in the eye as if they did nothing wrong and that you deserve to be deceived and abused for years because you had something that they wanted to get without ever deserving it. You will get the full picture when you realize that every single thing they ever told you about themselves is a huge lie, and it was all intentional, and they expect you to not make a big deal about it.

When you try to say something you disagree with or don’t believe, you’d start to feel like you’re pushing yourself to say it as if you are just producing sound from your mouth. You are just forcing yourself to speak the words. There would be too much movement to say it, or extra speed added to it to get it over with quickly without feeling the pain for too long. I’m not talking about lying for real or serious survival purposes. I’m talking about lying in order to destroy someone else’s life, intentionally, without any guilt or remorse whatsoever, and then moving on to your next target without feeling a thing about it, maybe even trying to justify what you did one way or the other.

Look in the mirror while attempting to experiment with this. Try saying something you know is wrong. It would feel like you’re controlling your body from outside. It’s not happening naturally like when you say what you believe. This is how people can notice lying. When you recognize the same pattern from someone telling you that you are the love of their life, or you are their soul mate, that’s something you shouldn’t dismiss as irrelevant. It should be terrifying. It is supposed to be a major red flag. If they really love you, why does it seem like they are about to severely hurt you?