Nothing feels good like success. Nothing feels good like fixing your life, and solving the problems that are stopping you from living, responsible for your perpetual never-ending suffering, or making you miserable. 

You were told that there are more fun things to do in life.

You were told that you can have or experience pleasure and happiness, when you still don’t have your life together, doing other things that can make you feel good, are supposed to make you feel good, or at least have the potential to make you feel good.

You were lied to.

There’s no such thing as happiness, satisfaction, fulfillment, enlightenment, pleasure, actualization, evolving, improvement, or success, if you still don’t have your life together. If your life is not fixed yet. If you are still suffering. If you are still stuck or trapped in the same environment, or under the same circumstances, that have always been responsible for you being miserable.

If you are still living or trying to barely survive under the same unlivable circumstances, conditions, or environment.

If you are still experiencing pain or suffering because of any reasons whatsoever that are preventing you from living without being able to fully experience unopposed happiness, joy, fulfillment, satisfaction, and being or feeling elated or being in a good mood all the time, whenever you try to, because pain or causes of pain and suffering have to take place every single time you try to do so. Every single time you try to feel good, or experience happiness, joy, fulfillment, satisfaction, reward, or being in a good mood all your life.

The problem isn’t in the fact that life is not sunshine and rainbows all the time. The problem is the interruption of happiness every single time, by pain, or any of the causes of suffering or pain there is.

This is like interrupted sleep, every single time or millisecond you fall asleep, which is worse than not trying to sleep at all in the first place, under such circumstances.

The problem is that people tell you that you can’t thrive, grow, or have or live your best life ever if you live under a toxic environment, or unlivable circumstances.

No, you can’t live under a toxic environment or under toxic, unlivable, or abusive circumstances or conditions in the first place. You can’t survive, in the first place.

Thinking about happiness in this case is a joke. It will not work. It will not happen. It is impossible to be happy under such circumstances or under such toxic environment, no matter what.

This does not necessarily mean that you should not try to be happy under those circumstances, or try to do anything that could make you feel good or make you happy. In fact, you should try your best to remain happy all the time under such circumstances, to the best of your ability, for mental health reasons. For your own good, not because the environment is allowing you to do so, or helping you when it comes to your happiness, but because you need to be happy, under any circumstances, or despite the continued existence of the toxic environment and horrible unlivable circumstances. You need to be happy, regardless. Your body does not care whether the suffering is happening through no fault of your own, or not. Your body, your mind, and your inner child, want and need to be happy, regardless, no matter what.

All I’m saying is, there’s an exception to the above rule. You can experience mind-blowing happiness, sense of success, achievement, accomplishment, progress, fulfillment, satisfaction, and reward, under those circumstances, no matter how unlivable, horrible, or hard the current circumstances you’re stuck or trapped in right now are. And that is through one thing.

Making those circumstances, no longer exist.