If what’s emerging from your unconscious is not against what you really want, try working with it instead of suppressing or neutralizing it.

There are things that happen on their own in your mind without you inducing them, without you initiating them.

Still, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to submit control to them.

If you realized that the thing that seems to be going on beyond your control is not that bad, or essentially neutral, you may be tempted to not waste any significant amount of energy fighting with them, because the end result will not necessarily be any better.

With or without these unconscious thought processes or seemingly negative feelings, your life remains no different.

It might seem wise to fight everything that doesn’t make sense, but the very act of fighting something that eliminating it won’t make much of a difference in your life is responsible for the perpetual sense of guilt that you have more than you think, because the mere fact of having directed your energy toward an outcome that is possible to attain but doesn’t make much of the needed difference in your life might only serve as an indication that it’s all hopeless and pointless, because even though you did everything right, and you managed to accomplish an objectively great outcome, after careful assessment by your unconscious mind of your current situation, you still arrive at the conclusion that your life is virtually or almost the same as it was before taking action. Nothing worth it has changed. There’s almost zero difference when it comes to why you are still suffering.

You can attempt to dismiss that by sprinkling in some positivity and gratitude, only to end up thinking you’re a bad person because no matter what you do or have, you can’t seem to be grateful for anything. Only resentment can be felt by you in this case. Nothing is working. Nothing seems to work. It’s hopeless. Why am I even trying. Everything seems to be pointless and meaningless. The ironic thing here is that you are experiencing an exaggerated sense of these feelings after the accomplishment, not after wasting huge proportions of your time doing nothing for example.

You have to understand that there are certain things that need to be done as fast as you can. You don’t have all the time in the world. You want to taste it, before something inside of you dies or attempts to irreversibly give up. Lights will turn themselves off for good at some point due to too much failure, and there will be no turning back.

This is where the unexplained perpetual sense of urgency that high performance individuals seem to all possess stems from. They know they don’t have time, even if to the external observer, they seem to have plenty of it. It shouldn’t come as a surprise that your mind can talk you out of doing anything you attempt to do if you hesitated to do it for more than five seconds. Imagine what it would do if your reluctance to take action extended to a period that equals five years. Nothing is humanly possible to be postponed that long while retaining the desire to do it. Doing this to yourself is not a form of luxury, it’s a form of self-inflicted torture. You’re not meant to be that patient. This is why Gary Vaynerchuk puts the disclaimer speed in the micro every time he mentions how we’re supposed to be patient in the macro. No ultra successful person is that laid-back. You can’t be so chill, and super successful at the same time. It feels like it’s never enough because you’re working on the wrong thing because you were told it’s going to lead to quicker results. You will never feel rewarded this way, if all you cared about is doing something right, instead of doing the one right thing that you know you should be doing at this stage or point in your life. Your thoughts are going to kill you, and there will be no escape.