Write your own constitution. But feel free to disobey its amendments any time whenever you believe this is the right course of action you should take. Don’t be a prisoner of your own rules, philosophies, or worldviews.

This post is about how to reconcile the two seemingly contradictory views of embracing constructive criticism because it is how you grow, and the fact that you shouldn’t pay much attention to what other people think.

The problem here lies in absolutism and worshiping commandments in a sense that clears any probability of you being on the wrong side of the debate of whether or not you’re a good person. Whether or not you deserve to be blessed or you deserve eternal damnation. You have to get through this battle in a very decisive manner that leaves no doubt behind as to whether or not you or your loved ones are doomed.

What happens here is that you will always be way behind those who chose to not judge things this way or through this measurement system. But you are refractory to learn from them because you have already demonized them beyond redemption as people who have double standards or are outright hypocritical.

Whereas your enemy utilizes these tactics at will without ever considering themselves to be the perfect description of what it means to be a monster of the dark side.

It really is that simple: childish mechanisms of thinking and evaluating things will always lead to primitive and weak worldviews or philosophies. The belief systems you’ve got are not the only problem here. How you think is equally guilty.

Instead of focusing on winning the ultimate logical debates, you should consider that things could prove themselves to be insanely useful, helpful, or beneficial, light-years before you can figure out why, or the scientific explanation of the underlying mechanisms by which it leads to the observed results or effects in the real world.

For example, the above case is one where you run into such challenge. I have to never ever care about what other people think. How can I pay attention to feedback or constructive criticism even if it is extremely amazing? The idea manifests itself because of your inherent fear of sin, of disobedience. It’s not just about the lack of fear of making mistakes or the notion that you shouldn’t aim for perfection because you’re never going to reach it. It’s about being okay with disobeying your own rules.

You don’t get to tell me it’s unconstitutional. Understand this: it’s people like us who make the constitution. You are the absolute monarch of your own life. You are the absolute emperor of your own empire. You’re the legend. You’re the ultimate dictator when it comes to the rules and laws that govern your own life. I understand that this is not the way governments should work, but this is the best way when it comes to self-management, or leading your own life. This is the best way to run your life. Be your own God. Until you overcome this barrier, you will always be the minion of somebody else who is manipulating you in the name of democracy, God, religion, love, or whatever. My life, my rules. Why is that a problem?

The result of this is not randomness or arbitrary decision making. The end result of this is massive flexibility and unlimited power.

When I criticize mindset fixing over complaining about your environment or circumstances, I have the flexibility and power to resort to any of the NLP techniques or manipulation of thought patterns when I have no other option to get to the intended outcome. As far as I’m concerned this is legal, and no one on earth that I’m aware of described cognitive behavioral therapy or Neuro-Linguistic Programming to be immoral, unethical, bad, or evil. Just pseudo-science. I have no hesitation or problem fully embracing techniques that could help me overcome my mental barriers that are standing between me and attaining the success that I truly desire, however religious and consistent I have been in emphasizing the fact that the environment, circumstances, and conditions that you are stuck with or struggling because of are almost exclusively responsible for you not being as successful as your potential can make you become, and for you not being able to automatically have the right mindset or be positive enough to succeed in the first place. I am not happy because I’m positive. I’m positive because I’m happy. And I’m happy because of the environment. These are my core beliefs and you can never shake me from that position no matter how hard you try. The reason I keep failing is because I have failed a lot in the past. Or because I haven’t succeeded enough in the past. That is gospel to me. If you are denying that or disagreeing with that, the least judgement or resentment I will have for you could be summed up in the following statement: you are privileged, spoiled beyond redemption, entitled, insanely naive, noob, and you have never tasted what real suffering or failing in life looks like. You also have no idea what you’re talking about. Still I have no problem with associating negative thought patterns with pain and a set of desired positive or enthusiasm-inducing thought patterns with pleasure in order to get ahead in life, solve any of my problems, achieve any great desired outcomes, reach a better quality of life, succeed at anything, or stop being stuck in a piss-hole or a horrible situation forever. This is because I’m not adopting an either or mentality. I can do anything I want. Not because I’m hedonistic or nihilistic. Not because I don’t give a damn anymore. But because I’m intelligent.

Do not try to make a full assessment or evaluation of your performance or how well you are doing in life or your career when you are not mentally well-rested enough.

Your mind cannot think well when you’re tired. Subsequently, the quality of your thoughts will dramatically decline.

People underestimate how difficult it is to keep a steady track of thoughts stringed together. People have no idea how hard it is to actively think, as opposed to just receive ideas or thoughts without any effort, thoughts that just come to them without necessarily meaning anything or having any bare resemblance to reality or what’s true or factual.

And people have no idea how energy consuming and reward draining the process of directed active goal oriented or driven thinking is.

Nevertheless, they choose the end of the day, when they’re really fatigued and depleted from any kind of energy that could sustain such processes at an adequate or acceptable level enough for you to trust in the validity of the conclusions you reach by exploring your problems through them, and give themselves the green light to comment on every aspect of their lives that they are dissatisfied with.

What do you think the conclusions would look like?

Of course you’d develop a firm belief that you are going through burnout. Of course your conviction of yourself as being depressed beyond help would become unshakable. Of course you’d feel like you’re a joke of an entrepreneur, and be absolutely sure that you’re a failure.

Nothing positive could come out of your mind when it is depleted from energy, when it is in its most fatigued moments, and you just love to pick such moments to think about everything and assess with utmost scrutiny how good you are doing in your life.

Instead of fighting negative thinking, you should instead focus more time and energy on fighting your perpetual state of exhaustion and fatigue.