“Let the past die. Kill it, if you have to. It’s the only way to become who you were meant to be.” – Kylo Ren

Aiming to go back to what you were like before your traumas took place is not the way to go about your healing. 

There’s something about going back to your old self that does not sound so appealing to you, and that’s why you encounter some sort of resistance every time you try to do it. 

Deep down inside, you know you failed because you were your older self.

Trauma is about being helpless in a situation where you feel powerless and having no control over any of the painful or negative stuff that is traumatising to you. Going back to your old self will only ensure getting traumatised again in the future if you happened to find yourself in such a traumatic event or situation again. 

You don’t have to go back to your old self in order to heal.

That’s why you think that you’re doing everything right and you’re still not making any progress towards your healing.

Remember, even if you were traumatised through no fault of your own, you failed in the past when you were your old self, whether or not your old self was the reason behind that failure.

You have to evolve, one way or the other, in order to make sure that this kind of trauma or any trauma whatsoever can never happen to you ever again, no matter what. That’s the only way you can heal, for good.

Self empowerment is the only way to go here. Self-improvement, not just self-love and acceptance. You have to become more powerful. You have to. 


Stop trying to go back to your old self. 


“Don’t wish things were easier, wish you were better.” – Jim Rohn 


If you only knew the power of the dark side…

Obi-Wan never told you what happened to your father.

He told me you killed him.

No, I am your father…