Gary Vaynerchuck frequently states that the reason he doesn’t slow down because of hateful comments is that he doesn’t get high on the cheers, and that’s why he doesn’t get affected by the boos, hate, or criticism. If you care about other people’s opinions, you’ll give weight to the negative feedback, just as you give weight to the positive feedback. But if you don’t care what anybody else thinks, you won’t give weight to any feedback in the first place, whether positive or negative. What makes Gary’s statement seem to not make sense is that he has to not pay attention to the positive feedback to get to the stage where he no longer gets discouraged by hate comments. But the solution lies in not putting value to the opinions of other people concerning what you do or say in the first place. In this case, neither positive nor negative feedback would matter to you. It’s not about resisting the temptation to feel good because of nice comments. It’s not caring about other people’s opinions at all concerning what you say or do. It’s about saying and doing what you want freely without holding back in order to avoid people judging you or criticizing you, without modifying your words or behavior to match the opinions of anyone else, without telling yourself what would others like me to say now, and then you say it, but instead, you ask yourself what you really want to say or do here, and then say it or do it anyway whether or not other people are going to like it or criticize it. A lot of people get confused here. You will only be able to stay in your head if you stop being afraid of what other people would think of you because of what you have said or done. What is the difference here then? The difference here is in that it’s okay to feel good when decent and respectable people commend your work, although you wouldn’t have modified your work in order to please any of those people, and you wouldn’t change it even if these same great people would hate you or criticize you so hard for it. Write as if you’re talking to yourself. As if you are your only audience. You’re the judge. And since you amazed yourself, you’re going to publish what you’ve written. You still have to understand how people think, but the final decision is yours, not how people would react to, criticize, or comment on what you’ve said.