Gary Vaynerchuck frequently states that the reason he doesn’t slow down because of hateful comments is that he doesn’t get high on the cheers, and that’s why he doesn’t get affected by the boos, hate, or criticism. If you care about other people’s opinions, you’ll give weight to the negative feedback, just as you give weight to the positive feedback. But if you don’t care what anybody else thinks, you won’t give weight to any feedback in the first place, whether positive or negative. What makes Gary’s statement seem to not make sense is that he has to not pay attention to the positive feedback to get to the stage where he no longer gets discouraged by hate comments. But the solution lies in not putting value to the opinions of other people concerning what you do or say in the first place. In this case, neither positive nor negative feedback would matter to you. It’s not about resisting the temptation to feel good because of nice comments. It’s not caring about other people’s opinions at all concerning what you say or do. It’s about saying and doing what you want freely without holding back in order to avoid people judging you or criticizing you, without modifying your words or behavior to match the opinions of anyone else, without telling yourself what would others like me to say now, and then you say it, but instead, you ask yourself what you really want to say or do here, and then say it or do it anyway whether or not other people are going to like it or criticize it. A lot of people get confused here. You will only be able to stay in your head if you stop being afraid of what other people would think of you because of what you have said or done. What is the difference here then? The difference here is in that it’s okay to feel good when decent and respectable people commend your work, although you wouldn’t have modified your work in order to please any of those people, and you wouldn’t change it even if these same great people would hate you or criticize you so hard for it. Write as if you’re talking to yourself. As if you are your only audience. You’re the judge. And since you amazed yourself, you’re going to publish what you’ve written. You still have to understand how people think, but the final decision is yours, not how people would react to, criticize, or comment on what you’ve said.

Do not just sit there and watch the entire movie on your favorite streaming service (mine is Netflix).

Open up the movie. Pause it. Then Start working. This strategy is called suspended stimulation or reward. The prize is right in front of you. You don’t have to make a decision concerning what to do right after you can’t push through further in what you’re currently working on.

Work and struggle seem eternal. Boredom seems to be inevitable. You have to work, and that is a reality that is anti fun. To adapt to it you shut yourself away from anything that you’re interested in or that you deem as fun in the name of being serious enough to not be distracted from what really matters in life. This is why it becomes inevitable for you to be depressed. You love fun. But you’re forbidden from it because if you allow yourself a tiny bit of fun you won’t be able to stop yourself from regarding this as the only thing you ever want in life, which would render or turn you into someone who’s characterized by society as lazy, unproductive, useless, incompetent, good for nothing, leeching upon civilization, a burden on the hard working people of society, …etc. So you demonize hating the idea of having to work or having to be productive. When you were a child you got it right. Studying and doing homework sucks. Not because our current educational system is obsolete and doesn’t teach us the right way that cultivates creativity and develops critical thinking, but because the idea of having to do something that could be characterized as work, and you are supposed to do it whether you feel like it or not sucks colossally. You grow up and your inhibitory centers find it an opportunity to boss you around by treating you as a child and telling you that you’re irresponsible for not working 24/7 just to survive or monetize your passion or whatever, and you say, oh yeah, you’re right, because you’re trying to look like a grown up the easy way, instead of actually becoming a real grown up. I’m not talking you out of wanting to work all the time, following your passion, earning a living, pursuing your dreams, finding purpose, helping the world, providing value, …etc. Not in the slightest. I’m just presenting facts I observed here that ignoring them would make you hate yourself all the time to the extent of shutting yourself down permanently or until further notice, because it is interfering with your capability to succeed financially in life, which explains why although you’re presumably doing what you really love all the time, you’re suffering from insane anhedonia, and you attribute this to your poor soul being ungrateful. The answer to this is to bypass the irrational rules that your primitive mind or brain tries to govern you through. By not letting your mind have to choose between work or play, because you merge them both simultaneously, utilizing what society now enjoys calling distracting yourself, and making that distraction work for you, fueling you, stimulating you, giving life meaning, because you cannot stay for long hours working only, because it sucks., and you cannot stay for long hours having fun and playing, because that’s irresponsible. Yes your mind is that primitive and stupid, and cannot hold itself for long enough or go through several hours of heavy work, without this being an exception, not the rule that you’ll be forced to follow for the rest of your life. Your mind hates that. Just as it hated learning at school although that was profoundly beneficial to you, and although you also knew how important that kind of education was for you back then and for your future even as a young kid. You weren’t unaware back then when you were a kid of how important or beneficial school was for you during your childhood and your adulthood. Still you were free enough to understand that despite all this, school really is annoying, and boring, and you hated it (not your friends, but going to school for education) because it wasn’t playing and fun all you want; it was work. Declare playing, having fun, doing what you enjoy or whatever that you’re interested in that is not part of what you can describe as work in your life as allowed always during the most intense moments of working that you can ever go through. For example, you’re editing a video, you hit a brick wall that you can’t push through because you for some reason cannot move any further because everything suddenly feels like it’s the same or a repetition of the previous moves in a new place, you can then jump immediately to watching a movie on the same desktop that you’re working on or editing the YouTube video on, until you get an urge to go back to editing or resume whatever that you were working on earlier, because now you’re not even seeing the boring parts of work, you’re fantasizing about moments from the movie, imagining stuff unrelated to the boring task at hand, living in a dream world, while being insanely creative during finishing the current work task at hand. It’s not alternating sessions of strict pure work and play. It’s alternating sessions of jumping between work and play, and sessions of rest where you do nothing at all, not even have fun. That is, alternating sessions of mixed work and play with sessions of pure rest or combined resting sessions. In the earlier sessions you’re allowed to jump between what could be characterized as work, and what you enjoy or are interested in that cannot be characterized as work. And in the later sessions when you feel you’re tired and can no longer do anything, not even play a game, watch a TV show episode, some videos, or movies…etc., You will be allowed to only rest and do nothing (pure resting sessions), or enjoy a mixed session of rest and thinking (thought-streaming meditation) while listening to your favorite type of music (which I call the combined resting session as opposed to the pure resting sessions where nothing at all is expected to be done by you, not even thinking freely or problem solving to enhance the quality of your life or fix or solve your life problems).

We only start thinking when we stop caring about what other people think about any thought we think. Something is missing.
Doesn’t it seem like everybody just gives you like appetizers only to pull you to their paid product or course?
Aside from this being unethical, phony, deceptive, manipulative, and outright immoral. Aside from this being a huge conspiracy to suck money out of people for no reason. Aside from this being only taking advantage of the naivete of the helpless…etc.
Isn’t that an indication that these people have nothing to offer?
They just want money? Even by telling you that you shouldn’t care or focus on money? Or that money shouldn’t be the central motivator behind your actions?
Isn’t that hypocrisy?
What are they teaching our kids? A new level of hypocrisy and deception that incorporates attacking materialistic and hedonistic motivations for doing the right thing?
Talking about Kindness in order to only gain money and fame? Pretending to be genuinely kind in order to get what you want which is just money and fame or reputation?
Are they teaching our kids and even 40+ year old adults to say and do whatever that gets them money and popularity even if they don’t believe what they say or do? They are not just hypocritical, they are also hypocritical and fake in their anti hypocrisy, anti fake, and pro kindness, authenticity, and honesty rhetoric.
This is double deception.
They teach us morality to abuse us and steal our money.
How evil, corrupt, and fake the world is becoming?
Is there anyone who’s really interested in what they say or do?
Or is it just a game of may the most fake and inauthentic win?
Just emptiness being parroted and regurgitated over and over again and now it’s for tons of money. Does anyone really have anything new or real to offer to the rest of the world?

We weren’t handed a manual at birth on how we should function. In terms of running nations democracy is the way to go. Constitutional republic if you prefer. Yeah, but that’s outside yourself. What if I told you that absolute monarchy is the way to go in terms of how you treat yourself? We all hate it when we’re ordered around by some external entity. Democracy or letting everyone inside of you do what they want will lead you nowhere. It leads to lack of positive external results, and it leads to inability to work or perform anything internally. You will be helpless, unable to move, and you will fail at everything you attempt to do except what takes care of itself because it’s habitual. Being in control of your life might sound like being in control of what goes into your schedule, but it runs deeper than that. It also isn’t limited to not acting out or reacting irrationally when mad. This isn’t about emotional intelligence as well, if there’s such thing in the first place. This is about commanding yourself. Giving yourself an order and following through with it whether you like it or not. Many call it self-discipline. But this is still deeper than just that. Self-discipline is simply controlling yourself. What I’m suggesting here is the opposite. And is also against internal democracy. What I’m suggesting here is letting yourself take control, assume leadership, and become the authoritarian head of an absolute monarchy. Letting yourself rule the rest of you. It’s not that you normally don’t want to listen to the orders you give yourself. It’s that you don’t even try to negotiate with the rest of you that generates impulses you don’t even like, but instead submit to the will of the masses like a helpless slave or minion. Democracy is awesome in the outside world when it comes to how countries should be like. But it is hell if it’s the case internally. The confusion comes from the concept of freedom being a high human value. How can you be free if you are not free to do what you want. So you give the entirety of what’s inside you free reign. You treat your internal people the way you want other people in the external world to treat you. Understand this: The concept of you not being the only thing that exists inside of you is not new and I’m not the first or the only one who’s proposing it. Countless philosophers called your thoughts not you, which suggests that you are not the one thinking those thoughts, which means someone else or other entities are thinking those thoughts that you should just observe passively as they go by without trying to interact with them and sometimes without even trying to shut them up. But you just attend the public live event and listen to whatever everyone is saying without commenting or responding to anything; without trying to control the narrative or direct the conversation elsewhere. This means one thing: You are not the one who is generating those thoughts, not even unconsciously. They are not yours at all in the first place. Which is also alluded to when they speak of the self as an illusion, and that such fact could only be realized by you after you meditate long enough. The point is, if your thoughts or at least the overwhelming majority of them are not yours, are you sure that every impulse or urge you get is yours either? Are you sure that everything you want to do is coming from you and not from the other entities that are not you that biologically normally live inside you? And I’m not talking about ghosts or demons here. In this case democracy here would be letting others control you, instead of giving yourself – the real you here – the full freedom and control over yourself that you think you deserve. In this case it’s dictatorship when it comes to all that lives inside of you, but it’s just independence and real control over yourself and your life when it comes to the real and only human self that exists inside you. So are you ready to liberate yourself by assuming control over the entirety of you?

A paid product or service (obtainable online). Pillar content (online always for free). And a Social Media presence (also online and always for free). Pillar content is what you work on every day before you think of anything else. The Pillar content is where you pour all your creative juice on a daily basis. The rest will then take care of itself. The social media posts will then be a natural result of what you’ve already made, created, gathered, produced, or discovered in your pillar content. Also you’ll know what to put in your paid products (books, courses, … etc.) when you have your pillar content figured out in the main three forms of pillar content. Wake up, and then create something on either of three mediums: audio, video, or written (text). That is, create something to be published immediately for free on a Podcast, YouTube channel, or blog. This is your main (after writing books if you’re a writer/author). A lot of people fall into the trap of wanting to become popular so they focus on growing their number of followers by posting on their favorite social media platforms day and night exclusively. They do nothing else. And they then think they have a personal brand. Then they think of monetizing their business as entrepreneurs by making a physical or digital product they sell or service they provide for money, that exists somewhere hidden, with a huge financial barrier to get to it. To their audience, these people exist only on social media platforms like Facebook, TikTok, Instagram, LinkedIn, or Twitter, and this is all there is to what they are. They don’t realize that this is missing the bigger or real deal. The podcast, video channel, or blog. I understand that there should be some product or service that you want to monetize or sell, but this can’t be the only thing that’s outside your social media presence. And I also understand that you should natively story tell on these social media channels or platforms, not just take advantage of them as distribution channels or new-age marketing tools. Still you don’t exist from a creative stand point as well if you are only producing tiny pieces of content on social media platforms like Instagram. There has to be a bigger outlet or place where you run unchecked creating ample content. Many don’t have that in mind and live exclusively on social media like this is where they’re going to create their own unique material or content. Social media is designed to give people the quick on the go bite of information. There’s no deep dive. There’s no in depth discussion of anything. Try comparing a random paragraph in a book with the same size of text on Twitter for example and you’ll realize they both operate on a whole different level or plane of existence. One is on the go, for someone who wants different stuff from different people in a short time. The other is for someone who is here to stay, who wants the whole thing, with everything there is that could ever be said about it in one place. It’s also like comparing TikTok videos with 2 plus hour movies. I am not denying that you can get tons of help or benefit from the concise way of message delivery found on different social media platforms. You cannot create something new or worthwhile if you only make new stuff on social media or courses or paid products or services. The Real deal lies in the long-form written, audio, or video content you make. That is, Podcast, videos on your YouTube channel, or blogging on your WordPress website. If you’re not available to the world for free they wouldn’t be interested enough to buy from you. But there’s more to this. You can’t put every new idea in a book or a paid course. And These ideas cannot be created from scratch on the tiny space available for posting on social media that give you the feeling that they are designed for high turn over material. Also not every new thing you want to say should be put in a book or could belong to one of your new books or courses. If an idea is worth chasing, and the space available for creating or presenting it with maximum detail is limited, and this discussion of the idea will soon be buried away due to the nature of social media platforms, this idea will not be created in the first place. You will not be able to come up with anything new that could only be described in full detail in a place that does not contain any limit on the size of the piece of content that you wish to publish. You can say yeah but why not write it down on paper for example (not limited space) and then simplify it or put it out on social media in concise posts. Exactly. You said it. Simplify it. Post it in a concise or brief form on social media. Dumb it down. Summarize it. Quickly state it. So you will only be able to publish it if it is small enough to fit the maximum size available or allowed for social media posts. Also people on social media don’t want that kind of stuff because they consider it to be too long for social media because they are there for short or small sized posts. That’s the whole point of them being on social media. In this case you will stop coming up with or generating such long-form discussions of various topics or making such large sized posts or pieces of content in the first place. Why would you when there’s no outlet to publish them as exactly as they are, without reducing their size to appeal to the type of audience found on social media only or what the people on these platforms normally expect from social media posts? You would only discuss stuff in depth when you work on your new book or course in this case. Yeah but you still can put it in one of the paid products? Would you? Is every new idea or piece of content that you could ever come up with, create, or think of worth adding to one of your books or courses? What if they weren’t? Will you dump them altogether? or Wait until you find a paid product that this idea could be added to it in the future? Like in, I’ll hold sharing this new idea with the entire world until I find a book that I can add this amazing piece of content or article to it and then publish it along with the rest of this book someday in the future? What if it took you like 10 years to come up with the book that this idea will be part of or that this piece of content, fully detailed or in depth discussion, or article best suits or belongs to? Is every idea you come up with worth that holding back or delaying of it being published for god knows how long? Could every idea, piece of content, fully detailed or in depth discussion, or article wait forever until the right time for it to be published or to be out in the world comes? Some ideas are held for books, I understand. But is that the case for all ideas? Or some ideas only? It’s up to you to select which ideas should be published immediately, and which should be part of a new book only. But if you’re on social media only or exclusively, you don’t have that option or luxury. Either the idea waits for its suitable book or future publication form, or be tossed to the ground or thrown in the trash can, because it cannot fit a normal social media post, or it doesn’t belong on social media in the first place. I’m not talking about small bites of information. I’m talking about any kind of long form in depth coverage of anything. So you need an outlet for that other than books, courses, …etc. And that outlet should be either audio, written, or video. It might be more than one of those forms, or perhaps even all of these forms. Podcast, YouTube, or a blog you run. It’s okay to run all three. The presence of the outlet itself provides you with the chance to be more creative. Really having a podcast on Spotify for example, a YouTube video channel, or a WordPress blogging website will instantly turn you infinitely more creative, (if you’re a creative person in the first place), just because of the mere presence of the opportunity to create and publish immediately without limits of size forcing you to dumb down or shorten the size of the material or content that you’re creating. You should understand that you discover information by writing or creating. It’s not that you get an idea and you go write it down as is. It’s that you get an idea, you go write it down, and an avalanche of other ideas burst into existence along the way while writing the first idea that inspired this writing session. During this process of discovering new truths, principles, points of view, content and things, and creating new stuff, you should have the option to publish right away the entirety of the material or content in its actual long in depth deep dive form or size, not shortening it first before sharing it on social media, or waiting forever until you finish writing a book that such ideas, content, or stuff belong to or could be published alongside the rest of what’s in this book.