You don’t need more training. You already have been training for years. The reason why you keep failing, isn’t because you’re not good enough to ever win, necessarily. The reason why you keep failing, is because you haven’t won in a long, long time.

You think that because I told you that you need success that what I had in mind was the quick and easy path to success, even if it involved immorality, corruption, hypocrisy, or evil. You think that when I tell you failure is bad, and there are no lessons to be learned from it, that this means that you shouldn’t take risks or get out of your comfort zone, or expand your comfort zone, for any reason whatsoever. You think that this means stay where you are for good, and never ever try to change anything. Don’t face your fears, and don’t try anything new. Never learn. Keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again forever. Don’t explore stuff. Assume you know it all before you even begin, because this is all there is, and you’ve seen it all before, and there’s nothing new to learn here, and there’s nothing that you don’t already know, and there’s nothing that you haven’t seen before. You think that avoiding failure means avoiding something that is not failure in and of itself, because it might lead to further failure. You think this means avoid aiming high or dreaming big. You think this means you’re no longer allowed to be ambitious. You think you are supposed to avoid doing anything that you might not necessarily succeed at it from the first attempt. If you might fail at something, don’t do it. Not to mention, if you might make some mistakes in it, you also shouldn’t try to do it in the first place.

You think that I meant all of this, or any of this. You are wrong.

Intention changes everything. Not my intention, yours.

If you approach something with a mindset of failure isn’t a bad thing that should be avoided, you will not be incentivized to succeed. You will have no reason to aim for success. You will have no motivation to not fail again this time. Since it’s all lessons and learning, and there’s no such a thing as failure, and you either win or learn. And failure doesn’t exist. You only fail when you quit, you will have no reason to try to succeed or win this time, no matter the cost. You will not have that burning desire to win or succeed, by any means necessary. You will not have that whatever it takes mentality. You will not even care about success or winning. Both outcomes are the same to you now. Why would you pick one over the other? Why would you put in the extra work that is necessary to make it happen this time around if both success and failure are equal to you, and it’s all about the journey? Why would you get rewarded intrinsically for success if you can short-circuit that by getting a sample of this huge reward through further and persistent failure? You can’t get something that you don’t truly want. And if you don’t want success, why would you ever get it, especially when things get challenging? Whatever happened to desire being the starting point of all achievement. Now you think a total disregard to desiring success or achievement does not change the outcome or rate of success. Because failure is not that bad actually. Not bad at all even. How would you ever succeed or win against all odds if you have that kind of mindset that normalizes failure and diminishes the importance of success? Especially when you exacerbate that by thinking success doesn’t matter, what matters is genuine happiness only. As if you can be truly happy while being a total failure. Or worse, success does not lead to happiness. Where did you get that from? Have you ever felt bad before because you succeeded at something? Isn’t progress better than perfection? How the hell are you going to make progress and keep things moving if you always get stuck and bogged down because of excessive failure, especially when that failure takes place successively or in a row? How will that positively impact making progress?

You think that your mindset around failure is making you unstoppable. In reality, all it does is make you indifferent towards success. You will never quit because of it, I’ll grant you that, but you will never win either. At least not at something slightly challenging or a little outside of your comfort zone. By not trying to aim for avoiding the negative, you ended up avoiding the positive and getting nothing but the negative.

I want you to tell me how does it feel like when you fail. Right after you’ve failed. Does it feel inspiring? Does it encourage you to sit down and figure out why you failed? Or does it open up the floodgates of negativity that makes it impossible for you to think constructively or be able to think at all in the first place? Does it expose you to the exact reasons why you keep failing every single time, or does it only feed your victim mentality out of nowhere, like there’s no tomorrow, even if you are against it to begin with? The truth about failure is that for whatever reason, it decreases your abilities, which makes it harder for you to win next time, even if you know exactly what you need to do to win, and even if you have what it takes to win every single time. Failure in this case will take place inevitably, not because you still need to learn something new that you don’t already know, but because you have failed too much recently, or in your past history, even if your failure was totally not your fault. That is assuming of course that the game itself you’re playing is not rigged, and that everybody is playing fairly. It is a form of unstoppable self-sabotage that happens against your will, to weed out the losers amongst our ranks, to only make room for the best and most competent of us to prevail, so that we don’t lose in battle again in the future because of you. Nature, when trying to achieve that, selects you not on the basis of competence, but on the basis of results, presumably because Nature has no intelligence that allows it to be able to determine how competent you really are except through real world external results or indisputable success, with disregard to how competent you really are. Just because your past history is full of instances of failure, you’re not allowed to win or even compete anymore, even if all this failure was through no fault of your own, even if it has nothing to do with your actual competence. Even if it has nothing to do with how good you really are, or how strong, intelligent, or competent you really are. Even if you failed because of being too smart. Even if you failed because you were too good to win at something that easy for you. Even if your failure was due to corruption, or entirely due to external circumstances. Even if your failure was due to narcissistic abuse, or its long-lasting negative effects on you even after you’ve managed to escape it for good. Even if it’s not your fault. Nature doesn’t care, and it will continue exercising its oppression onto you for as long as it can, until you win.