Why you keep failing at getting your life together, despite doing everything right, and aiming for and focusing on the positive outcome you’re after, and the beautiful end result you truly want.
Fix your life’s problems.
Trying to get to a better mood or be happy following your passion, doing what you love, or working on your life’s purpose or highest aspirations while having problems that are sucking the life out of you, causing you massive amounts of mental, emotional, psychological, or physical pain, draining your energy or happiness, or lowering your mood or mental health for any reason whatsoever is like pouring water into a bucket with a lot of holes in it. It will never remain filled up, and after a while you’ll feel like nothing you do ever works. You will feel hopeless and helpless, because no matter how hard you work on stuff that is supposed to make you happy, you feel nothing. And sometimes you even feel worse, right after doing anything whatsoever that used to make you feel good in the past.
There’s nothing wrong with pursuing your passions, doing stuff that makes you feel good, or going after the life that you want. There’s nothing wrong with any of that, and there’s nothing wrong with you, necessarily.
But you are denied access to happiness for a single reason. Your life sucks to an unlivable and intolerable level, and you refuse to do anything about it. Until you fix the damned bucket you will always be in endless and perpetual pain and suffering, and nothing that you ever do will ever help or work.
It’s not because we’re hardwired to avoid pain instead of focusing on pursuing pleasure. It’s because pain sucks the reward, happiness, and life out of you, and that’s why it’s painful. Nothing in this case can make you happy or be in a positive state. Because the problem isn’t in the lack of positive stuff in your life, but is in the abundance of negative stuff in your life. And that’s why it makes sense to aim for avoidance of such negative stuff and eliminating it altogether like it’s the purpose of your life.
No amount of pleasure, success, or happiness can help you bypass that or lessen the urgency and importance of eliminating the negative stuff out of your life that destroys your happiness every single time you start feeling good.
That has nothing to do with your nature or evolution. This is the only course of action in this case and under these circumstances that makes sense, and that is not totally insane.
Eliminate negativity out of your life, before trying to establish or reach any type of positivity or positive thing or outcome whatsoever in your life, no matter what.
It is pointless, hopeless, and impossible to do otherwise, even if you got outside help.
And eliminating the negative does not necessarily mean avoidance of toxic or abusive people only, for example.
You can think of the negative in this case as absence of being surrounded by positive, awesome, uplifting, happy, successful, inspiring, amazing, and good people in your life. That is a gap that has to be filled. A negative. Eliminating it will lead to no longer being alone, disconnected, or lonely after you eliminate all negative, toxic, abusive, narcissistic, sociopathic, or psychopathic people out of your life completely and for good. You will end up with the positive intended outcome that you want by focusing on eliminating the negative entirely out of your life, one outrageous negative thing at a time. It is inevitable.
But why not just approach this by trying to focus on attaining the positive outcome instead from the start?
Because the amount of negativity in your life is overwhelming, and will always drain you, suck and deplete your energy, and drag and weigh you down, until you fail, especially when you try to think of, get to, or aim for, something positive.
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