It’s okay to be wrong sometimes. If doing what I love or truly want is wrong, I don’t want to be right.

The right decision will not always look or seem like the right decision to make or the right thing to do. You have to understand that every single decision you can make can be questioned and rolled back. Can be considered wrong, from a certain point of view. Any point of view. You can always come up with countless reasons why you think you made the wrong decision. Why you shouldn’t have done something. Why that thing was a total waste of time and energy. Why you should’ve done something else instead. Why because of that certain decision you are significantly far behind in life for good. Why this decision ruined your life, or at least multiple decisions of the same nature have collectively led to ruining your life. How you could’ve made a better decision, if you were more responsible, or gave it more thought. You always make the wrong decision, and that’s why you’re failing at life.

Your problem is not in that you make wrong decisions too much or too frequently. Your problem is that you have a phobia of making the wrong decision. Your problem is that you let the decision be a no-brainer first, and then you proceed, because you don’t actually have the capability of making a decision, so you avoid the whole process altogether by making the decision that seems like the only decision that is absolutely right and cannot be considered wrong from any perspective or point of view whatsoever. So you make the safest decision. You make the least controversial decision possible. You make a decision only when it is impossible for you to make a wrong decision. Which means you only choose, when you have no choice. You have a phobia of making mistakes, which is ruining your capacity for decision-making, because you’re afraid of making the wrong decision. So you only choose the thing that is least likely to be wrong, even if that does not lead to the outcome that you truly want long-term.

Just because you made the safe decision does not necessarily mean that you made the right decision.

But I’m not here to tell you just that. I’m here to tell you that unless you are okay with making the wrong decision, you will always fail at making a good decision or the right decision. You have a fear of regret, and that’s understandable. You also avoid that fear of regret by making sure you never make any mistakes, which means you move mountains just to make sure you never make the wrong decision, even by mistake, because regret is the worst, so you have to avoid it by any means necessary, even if that led to you walking on eggshells for the rest of your life when it comes to making choices and decision-making. After all, you might be wrong. Who knows. Better be safe than sorry, so you make the right decision only, because you don’t want to make a decision that you can regret for the rest of your life. Because of this you only make the right decision only, and any decision that can be wrong, has to be eliminated.

You can always come up with an endless list of reasons why a decision could be considered wrong from a certain point of view or perspective. Imagine if you avoided all of those decisions. Imagine if you avoided ever making any decision that could potentially be considered wrong from any point of view or perspective, or after any amount of careful consideration or further inspection. Imagine if you avoided every single decision that could turn out to be the wrong decision if you gave it some more thought. You would be left with nothing. Everything will be forbidden, and you will never make any good decision, or any decision at all in the first place. You would be completely passive. You will have zero freewill and freedom. Everything will be compulsory. You will always be stuck with a handful of decisions or choices to pick from. You will always have a limited pool of options or choices to pick or choose from. You will always feel like you’re stuck and trapped. You will always feel like you have no choice. Because unless the decision is the absolute right decision to make with absolute certainty and zero controversy, you will never make that decision.

Instead of telling you hey, just take more risks, I’m going to tell you something better. Be okay with making wrong decisions. Be okay with making mistakes. This isn’t because life will be fun when you say screw it, who cares, let’s make mistakes all we want. This isn’t a nihilistic point of view. I don’t believe in motivating people through nihilistic motivation that focuses on why should you care. I care, and so should you, because our life and the quality of our life is all we’ve got. It is in not being afraid of making mistakes and wrong decisions will you get yourself to make more decisions in terms of quantity, even if none of these decisions is perfect, ideal, or a hundred percent the best decision ever. In this case you will make a significantly higher number of decisions that are still high quality but not so perfect, ideal, and are not necessarily the best decision ever. But the resultant outcome from the collective of all those decisions is much better and greater in terms of everything, especially the quality of your life, because you have an abundance of decisions that have all significantly moved you forward in some positive direction, instead of being ultra conservative with your decisions and finding out decades later that you barely ever moved forward in any positive direction. You will then regret one thing. Not having used any of your decision-making faculties or executive functioning abilities except inhibition.