There are people who have nothing to lose. They can’t get in a bad mood. Be careful. They can do anything to you.

“Life is a stage, and when the curtain falls upon an act, it is finished and forgotten. The emptiness of such a life is beyond imagination.” – Alexander Lowen, describing the existence of a narcissist

It’s like they find every hole in the rules that people play by and do their best to exploit them for fun. They are not doing so for survival or because they have their own emotions suppressed or they haven’t become their true selves yet or at all. This is their normal healthy state. This is their own nature. This is their own true self. These are their emotions and feelings being fully expressed unchecked without them holding anything back. This is an accurate representation of what is truly going on inside of them. They are not victims of abuse or suffering who are just behaving this way because they refuse to heal themselves. They are happy that they have learned all these evil behaviors from their sick environment so they can easily become professionals at abusing and destroying other people by just resorting to the teachings they learned and the experience they got during their childhood or in the past. They are struggling with nothing. And they keep wondering why others aren’t like them. And why others won’t let them have their way when they are demonstrably superior to virtually everybody else they can come across in this world. They have nothing to heal. They have no problem. They are happy this way. They don’t have a problem that needs to be fixed. They are the problem. And there’s no solution.

The struggle is for the repressed victims who don’t know how to return to being fully themselves because of the perpetual state of criticism they have gone through earlier in the past whenever they tried acting or behaving like themselves in any way. Not for the abusers who are already being fully themselves when they are this way abusing others. The reason they always win is because you think they can be something different from what they are in front of you. Your faith in them is your weakness. There’s nothing to be saved or fixed in them. In their world, they genuinely ask themselves what’s wrong with their victims. They really believe we’re handicapped in many ways. The abuse is just an attempt to train us and fix us, so that we can become better equipped to handle the real world. What’s wrong with the rest of the world is a question they always ask themselves. You cannot sympathize with or peacefully coexist with people who are that delusional. They genuinely believe you’re hopeless to the extent of believing destroying you is a heroic service to humanity.

Sometimes these people are really super human. Still, it doesn’t justify them crushing others just to prove a point.

My perspective is that delusion will always get attacked by your unconscious and will lower your abilities and drag you down. Not to mention the unlimited amount of self loathing and criticism that comes from it. Gaslighting is just a form of manipulation that is intended to make you doubt your own perception and understanding of reality. Don’t perform it on yourself and wonder why the abuse seems to be still ongoing and can’t seem to ever leave you, even when you’re now safe. Not hating people who are evil and have intentionally destroyed your life is not required to reach greater levels of healing. It’s arguably totally physically and mentally unhealthy. You can’t claim to be fully embracing your feelings when you suppress your hatred. It’s cognitive dissonance that will only make it impossible for you to be fully what you’re meant to be. Also the goal isn’t waking up and hating them all day long. Don’t waste your time. The goal is to live as if they don’t exist. The goal is for you to reach a point where they are totally irrelevant. You totally don’t have to forgive them to heal or move on. I certainly believe it’s harmful for you to attempt to forgive them, because deep down this will only mean one thing: it was okay to abuse you. Not a big deal. And that was their message all along.

They are not victims like us who – unlike us – abuse others because they haven’t tried to heal themselves or because they are suppressing their emotions or true self. This is their true nature. This is who they are, not what they do or how they behave.