You can keep failing no matter what you do for years just because you have failed too much in your past. The reason why you’re struggling with success might be the fact that you failed too much or for too long in the past. It might have nothing to do with your skills or abilities. It might be totally unrelated to your intelligence or how good you really are.

Another reason why you’re struggling is because you haven’t made it yet, even if you haven’t ever failed in the past on the pathway to making it happen. You haven’t failed, but you haven’t succeeded yet, after trying for so long or for endless years. And that’s what is making you struggle more than normal, and that’s why you feel like you are not allowed access to any of your full potential, abilities, or true power. It even feels like you don’t have any intelligence or abilities at all in the first place, only endurance and perseverance. And it all feels like nonstop exhausting labor.

That’s why everything you do or don’t do feels like labor, and you feel like you just struggle, without being able to ever reach any real outcome that has been attained by anyone you feel you are actually way better than in terms of ability.

Mindset won’t get you so far this time. It wouldn’t even make any real difference.

The only thing that can get you out of this trap and make you stop failing is winning. Nothing else will end the never-ending cycle of failure.

Gay is often defined as wanting to have sex with the same gender, being sexually attracted to members of the same sex, or being romantically (in love) involved with people of the same gender.

By the common definitions of gay, people immediately exclude men who love to be pegged in their ass with a strap on dildo worn by a female or with a dildo held by a female from being gay.

They almost always say: This was done with a girl. You are not gay unless you sleep with a member of the same sex.

As long as the penetration of the guy’s ass was done by a female they are not gay.

This is also the case if the guy’s ass was penetrated by himself.

 

There are straight men who love other particular straight men (like best friends) and they aren’t considered gay by anyone. Obi Wan Kenobi Told Darth Vader that he loves him. Meredeth Gray told Cristina Yang she loves her. No one thought those people are gay, and no one was shocked that one of their favorite characters told a member of the same sex ‘I love you’.

Being Homosexual is about sex, not love. Now what is homosexual sex for men?

 

 

 

 

If you do enjoy being fucked in the ass and like it and feel good during it and after it and want to be fucked in the ass, then you are not necessarily gay. If you consider yourself to be gay just because of that then you are either lying to yourself or you are confused or you just don’t know.

By definition if you are a man that likes the above to be done to you by a guy then you are gay, but if you like the above to be done to you by a female or by yourself you can still consider yourself 100% straight (as long as you do not like it done to you by guys too).

 

 

The only difference in both cases is in who has committed this act to you. If it is a female then the male here is heterosexual. If it is a male then this male here is homosexual.

Ask anyone in a threesome or foursome with another guy and two girls whether or not he would say no to being fucked in the ass by the other guy instead of another girl with a dildo or strap on while at the same time he is fucking one of the two girls while the other girl is kissing the first girl and grabbing her breasts. It does make a huge difference at that moment. Who is fucking the male matters. If the one who is fucking the male is male then the first male is either gay or bisexual. If the one who is banging the male is female then the male here is 100% straight without being any less straight than any man or male who doesn’t let a female peg him in his ass at all or a man or male who has never had any kind of anal sex in or with his ass or has never been pegged or penetrated in his ass before by either himself or by someone else whether male or female or of any other gender (that is not male or female).

 

Being a heterosexual straight man does not mean you only want to have sexual intercourse with females with your dick in the female’s vagina or asshole, and not the other way around (even if this other way around was done by the female to the guy where the female sticks or shoves or inserts a strap on dildo or any dildo or anything at all in the male’s ass or asshole or anal canal).

If a male likes to be or wants to be or enjoys being or desires to be or feels good during and after being penetrated in his ass or his asshole by anything at all (regardless of what it is) then this male is not necessarily gay or bisexual and this male can still be heterosexual. If a male likes to be or wants to be or enjoys being or desires to be or feels good during and after being fucked in his ass or asshole by another male then he is either gay or bisexual.

If a male likes to be or wants to be or enjoys being or desires to be or feels good during and after being fucked or banged or penetrated or pegged in his ass or asshole either by himself or by a female with a strap on dildo or anything she holds with her hands or anything at all or even anything that he holds with his hands or by anything that is not held by anyone or by anything that can fuck or bang or penetrate or peg him in his ass or asshole (without another male being responsible for that penetration or banging or anal sex with this first male’s ass), then this male is 100% straight and this male is 100% heterosexual. He is not gay or bisexual or something not otherwise specified or something not identified yet or labeled yet or something new that is none of the already established sexual identities or sexual orientations or sexual preferences so far.

It follows to say that it is not what you do that makes you fall under the category of one sexual identity rather than the other. It is what you are. You are either this or that. You do not become this or that just because you have done this or that.

In most major religions being gay is considered a choice. It just requires abstinence from gay sex for quite some time and having only straight sex to turn you back to your original nature of being heterosexual.

But the truth is being gay is not a choice.

What does that mean?

It means that gay people can’t help but be gay. Not just having gay sex but being gay as in the desire and sexual urge to have gay sex. It is irresistible for gay people not to have gay sex. If they turn away from gay sex they are only turning away from fulfilling their natural sexual desires. It would be like depriving them from the only way they have to fulfill their natural sexual desires and sexual urges and sexual needs. It is who they are not what they do.

The same thing is true for any other sexual identity and sexual orientation and sexual preference.